dustmuffin
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Wonder what he did.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
big Neil banned?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
logicallefty
Moderator
Personal attacks and a racial comments that were below the belt. The ban is only temporary
backseatjuan
Banned
Nice! Now let's get his address and send him a used diaper!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sazc
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He didn't take the pic from Google. That was @bigneil .
I saw his pic with his female about a month , or a few, into the relationship, he sent it to me over PM. He was telling about the whole "she broke up with him" thing. He told me that he misrepresented what actually occurred on the boards because he didn't want to get crap from you guys. He told me (assumedly) what really happened, and asked my advice.
Then proceeded to trash me in public in general. Such an upstanding guy....
That was him tho, every pic
I saw his pic with his female about a month , or a few, into the relationship, he sent it to me over PM. He was telling about the whole "she broke up with him" thing. He told me that he misrepresented what actually occurred on the boards because he didn't want to get crap from you guys. He told me (assumedly) what really happened, and asked my advice.
Then proceeded to trash me in public in general. Such an upstanding guy....
That was him tho, every pic
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Actually, that's one of the first things we do as moderators. We find that a silent, subtle warning usually gets the message across.
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
I am in agreement with this.
resilient
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Igetit!
Moderator
Well his ban is only temporary,so enjoy the "peace" while it lasts.
logicallefty
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I personally happen to like BigNeil. He is a little brash at times but he has a unique style that adds value to the form. I like most of the people here, actually. But rules are rules. The only one here who can never be banned ever is the site admin/owner, Allen. The rest of us, even other moderators as we saw a few weeks ago, are fair game to be banned if we don't follow the rules.
zekko
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The thing I like about Bigneil, Backbreaker, Desdinova, and others is that they are very upfront about taking examples from their real lives and talking about them on the forum. I'm more of a private person though, and there is no way I would share that level of detail on the internet. But it's great that these people are more comfortable with it, it makes for interesting reading. It's not hard to see why Neil was banned though, he was getting into a lot of fights there at the end.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Was he programming bot accounts to boost his number of likes?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Yes but that wasn't why he got banned. And he only did that because Building_and_Loan liked Desdinova's last dozen posts to put him back at the number 1 most liked SS member just to piss Neil off. It was hilarious. I was planning to do the same actually, but he got banned before I was able to and I figured Des would just naturally generate more likes than Neil.
I believe he stated to Atom Smasher something about 'suicide by mod'. He posted it on Neil's wall right after he got banned, but it looks like he deleted it or something.
Atom Smasher
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Some guys push the envelope so far that I consider them to be committing "suicide by mod" (deep down they want to get banned rather than quit), but not in his case.
PeasantPlayer
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Dude was delusional and probably has NPD, his women weren't that great looking, he had a personal trainer, but posted pictures and he look flabby as hell. He had good advice, but it just tailed off in to his ego
backseatjuan
Banned
Big ego and big cars and big everything is a compensation for small d1ck!
I called for neils ban weeks ago. I knew it was going to happen and the day he was banned i was truly happy lol. As petty as that sounds, his constant bs bragging about the hoes he hires just sickened me. If his ban was permanent this place would be better off. I mean look at how many people are posting about how great things are now..that should be reason enough for a permaban. Because posters like that drive traffic away eventually and that means less $$$ for the site owner.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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