dustmuffin
Master Don Juan
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Wonder what he did.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Actually, that's one of the first things we do as moderators. We find that a silent, subtle warning usually gets the message across.Nice! Now let's get his address and send him a used diaper!
I am in agreement with this.It's been VERY low drama since the last few people have been banned.
It's nice to see things chill, and some real communication taking place
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Well his ban is only temporary,so enjoy the "peace" while it lasts.Couldn't agree more, the forum is a pleasure to be on at the minute!
imagine what would happen if bigneil was moderator!Well his ban is only temporary,so enjoy the "peace" while it lasts.
The thing I like about Bigneil, Backbreaker, Desdinova, and others is that they are very upfront about taking examples from their real lives and talking about them on the forum. I'm more of a private person though, and there is no way I would share that level of detail on the internet. But it's great that these people are more comfortable with it, it makes for interesting reading. It's not hard to see why Neil was banned though, he was getting into a lot of fights there at the end.I personally happen to like BigNeil. He is a little brash at times but he has a unique style that adds value to the form. I like most of the people here, actually. But rules are rules.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yes but that wasn't why he got banned. And he only did that because Building_and_Loan liked Desdinova's last dozen posts to put him back at the number 1 most liked SS member just to piss Neil off. It was hilarious. I was planning to do the same actually, but he got banned before I was able to and I figured Des would just naturally generate more likes than Neil.Was he programming bot accounts to boost his number of likes?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.