dustmuffin
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Wonder what he did.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
big Neil banned?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
Moderator
Personal attacks and a racial comments that were below the belt. The ban is only temporary
backseatjuan
Banned
Nice! Now let's get his address and send him a used diaper!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
sazc
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He didn't take the pic from Google. That was @bigneil .
I saw his pic with his female about a month , or a few, into the relationship, he sent it to me over PM. He was telling about the whole "she broke up with him" thing. He told me that he misrepresented what actually occurred on the boards because he didn't want to get crap from you guys. He told me (assumedly) what really happened, and asked my advice.
Then proceeded to trash me in public in general. Such an upstanding guy....
That was him tho, every pic
I saw his pic with his female about a month , or a few, into the relationship, he sent it to me over PM. He was telling about the whole "she broke up with him" thing. He told me that he misrepresented what actually occurred on the boards because he didn't want to get crap from you guys. He told me (assumedly) what really happened, and asked my advice.
Then proceeded to trash me in public in general. Such an upstanding guy....
That was him tho, every pic
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Actually, that's one of the first things we do as moderators. We find that a silent, subtle warning usually gets the message across.
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
I am in agreement with this.
resilient
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Igetit!
Moderator
Well his ban is only temporary,so enjoy the "peace" while it lasts.
logicallefty
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I personally happen to like BigNeil. He is a little brash at times but he has a unique style that adds value to the form. I like most of the people here, actually. But rules are rules. The only one here who can never be banned ever is the site admin/owner, Allen. The rest of us, even other moderators as we saw a few weeks ago, are fair game to be banned if we don't follow the rules.
zekko
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The thing I like about Bigneil, Backbreaker, Desdinova, and others is that they are very upfront about taking examples from their real lives and talking about them on the forum. I'm more of a private person though, and there is no way I would share that level of detail on the internet. But it's great that these people are more comfortable with it, it makes for interesting reading. It's not hard to see why Neil was banned though, he was getting into a lot of fights there at the end.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Was he programming bot accounts to boost his number of likes?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Yes but that wasn't why he got banned. And he only did that because Building_and_Loan liked Desdinova's last dozen posts to put him back at the number 1 most liked SS member just to piss Neil off. It was hilarious. I was planning to do the same actually, but he got banned before I was able to and I figured Des would just naturally generate more likes than Neil.
I believe he stated to Atom Smasher something about 'suicide by mod'. He posted it on Neil's wall right after he got banned, but it looks like he deleted it or something.
Atom Smasher
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Some guys push the envelope so far that I consider them to be committing "suicide by mod" (deep down they want to get banned rather than quit), but not in his case.
PeasantPlayer
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Dude was delusional and probably has NPD, his women weren't that great looking, he had a personal trainer, but posted pictures and he look flabby as hell. He had good advice, but it just tailed off in to his ego
backseatjuan
Banned
Big ego and big cars and big everything is a compensation for small d1ck!
I called for neils ban weeks ago. I knew it was going to happen and the day he was banned i was truly happy lol. As petty as that sounds, his constant bs bragging about the hoes he hires just sickened me. If his ban was permanent this place would be better off. I mean look at how many people are posting about how great things are now..that should be reason enough for a permaban. Because posters like that drive traffic away eventually and that means less $$$ for the site owner.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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