dustmuffin
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 21, 2015
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Wonder what he did.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Actually, that's one of the first things we do as moderators. We find that a silent, subtle warning usually gets the message across.Nice! Now let's get his address and send him a used diaper!
I am in agreement with this.It's been VERY low drama since the last few people have been banned.
It's nice to see things chill, and some real communication taking place
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well his ban is only temporary,so enjoy the "peace" while it lasts.Couldn't agree more, the forum is a pleasure to be on at the minute!
imagine what would happen if bigneil was moderator!Well his ban is only temporary,so enjoy the "peace" while it lasts.
The thing I like about Bigneil, Backbreaker, Desdinova, and others is that they are very upfront about taking examples from their real lives and talking about them on the forum. I'm more of a private person though, and there is no way I would share that level of detail on the internet. But it's great that these people are more comfortable with it, it makes for interesting reading. It's not hard to see why Neil was banned though, he was getting into a lot of fights there at the end.I personally happen to like BigNeil. He is a little brash at times but he has a unique style that adds value to the form. I like most of the people here, actually. But rules are rules.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yes but that wasn't why he got banned. And he only did that because Building_and_Loan liked Desdinova's last dozen posts to put him back at the number 1 most liked SS member just to piss Neil off. It was hilarious. I was planning to do the same actually, but he got banned before I was able to and I figured Des would just naturally generate more likes than Neil.Was he programming bot accounts to boost his number of likes?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.