"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bi-Polar VS BPD

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Schizophrenia.
 
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I've went out with a Bipolar chick before, and man she was a freak...sexually. I got a bl0wjob once in her house at a HUGE family gathering, door open and everything. Personality-wise she was just an attention-***** I guess, nothing like the Borderline stuff I read on here. Maybe she had mild Bi-polar.

In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE
 

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Gears of Led Zep said:
I've went out with a Bipolar chick before, and man she was a freak...sexually. I got a bl0wjob once in her house at a HUGE family gathering, door open and everything. Personality-wise she was just an attention-***** I guess, nothing like the Borderline stuff I read on here. Maybe she had mild Bi-polar.

In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE
I noticed that too bro..Most women who have diseases are fu*kin freaks.. :rockon:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bipolar is a world of difference from bpd. It is simpler, treatable with medication, and affects men as much and probably more than women. BPD by contrast afflicts almost exclusively women, cannot be medicated, and is very complex.
 

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Bipolar is sort of a symptom of BPD, as well.
 

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BPD by contrast afflicts almost exclusively women, cannot be medicated, and is very complex.

I'm a BPD man, however, my BPD is mild as sometimes it vanishes for months. But I must completely avoid drugs, coffee (cola, chocolate in large quantities etc too) and limit alcohol intake to 1 glass a day at most + get a lot of sleep to avoid mood swings and all the rest what comes with it. Push/pull is natural for me when it comes to women which I feel attracted to, and it produces very very different results.

BPD is a horrible thing to have, and well it sucks but u can live with it, unlike schizophrenia.
 

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Does being impulsive clarify you as BPD?

1.marked tendency to act unexpectedly and without consideration of the consequences;
2.marked tendency to quarrelsome behaviour and to conflicts with others, especially when impulsive acts are thwarted or criticized

I have to admit that this applies to me greatly, especially with getting things done which can include women. However, what is wrong with being a 'risk-taker' and not considering the consequences. I don't think I can ever change being impulsive and with what stands out as a good thing with my personality in some, can seem like a bad quality? But I don't want to change that. How do I work on #2?

I guess I'm answering my own question with 'not caring what others think'?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Those two behaviors do not qualify you as BPD, however both are commonly seen in BPDs along with some other signs and symptoms.

#2 is probably called, "Low tolerance for frustration" in psych speak.
It is an inability to accept daily disappointment and is characterized by explosive outbursts or a seething resentment when relatively minor events do not work immediately in your favor.
You want what you want and you want it NOW !
 

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jophil28 said:
Those two behaviors do not qualify you as BPD, however both are commonly seen in BPDs along with some other signs and symptoms.

#2 is probably called, "Low tolerance for frustration" in psych speak.
It is an inability to accept daily disappointment and is characterized by explosive outbursts or a seething resentment when relatively minor events do not work immediately in your favor.
You want what you want and you want it NOW !
Gotcha! I get it. I guess that doesn't apply to me then as I'm able to endure, difficulty, provocation, or annoyance with calmness but at the sametime, I'm still working on that. I think you're refering to the fourth subtype of the Impulsive BPD type.

4.difficulty in maintaining any course of action that offers no immediate reward
 

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Those three things were almost all that I ever saw my bpd ex consume.
that sucks, these things increase BPD symptoms dramatically. In fact, drug/alcohol abuse can cause BPD in a healthy person, especially combined with prolonged severe stress.
 

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The Difference:


Schizophrenics and Bipolars are mentally ill: Schizophrenics and Bipolars can’t control their bizarre thoughts, behaviors, impulses and/or hallucinations without medication and deserve our compassion and sympathy.

Cluster B individuals are not mentally ill: Many of their behaviors and beliefs are counter to societal norms, but they are not crazy in the sense that they’re not responsible for their actions due to insanity. Having zero impulse control doesn’t make you insane; it makes you an out of control child. Most BPDs are quite capable of controlling their bizarre and abusive behaviors when it suits them.

*Interesting point here:
Most Cluster B’s only mistreat and abuse people who they’re certain will let them get away with it. Validating their emotions, beliefs, assertions and accusations just because they’re having them, which often have no basis in reality, only enables them to continue to jerk you around.
Source:
http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/201...onality-disorder-helpful-or-harmful-for-nons/
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Gears of Led Zep said:
In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE
Interesting...
 
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