Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I noticed that too bro..Most women who have diseases are fu*kin freaks.. :rockon:Gears of Led Zep said:I've went out with a Bipolar chick before, and man she was a freak...sexually. I got a bl0wjob once in her house at a HUGE family gathering, door open and everything. Personality-wise she was just an attention-***** I guess, nothing like the Borderline stuff I read on here. Maybe she had mild Bi-polar.
In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
horaholic said:Bipolar is sort of a symptom of BPD, as well.
BPD by contrast afflicts almost exclusively women, cannot be medicated, and is very complex.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Gotcha! I get it. I guess that doesn't apply to me then as I'm able to endure, difficulty, provocation, or annoyance with calmness but at the sametime, I'm still working on that. I think you're refering to the fourth subtype of the Impulsive BPD type.jophil28 said:Those two behaviors do not qualify you as BPD, however both are commonly seen in BPDs along with some other signs and symptoms.
#2 is probably called, "Low tolerance for frustration" in psych speak.
It is an inability to accept daily disappointment and is characterized by explosive outbursts or a seething resentment when relatively minor events do not work immediately in your favor.
You want what you want and you want it NOW !
Acq said:I must completely avoid drugs, coffee...and limit alcohol
that sucks, these things increase BPD symptoms dramatically. In fact, drug/alcohol abuse can cause BPD in a healthy person, especially combined with prolonged severe stress.Those three things were almost all that I ever saw my bpd ex consume.
Source:
Schizophrenics and Bipolars are mentally ill: Schizophrenics and Bipolars can’t control their bizarre thoughts, behaviors, impulses and/or hallucinations without medication and deserve our compassion and sympathy.
Cluster B individuals are not mentally ill: Many of their behaviors and beliefs are counter to societal norms, but they are not crazy in the sense that they’re not responsible for their actions due to insanity. Having zero impulse control doesn’t make you insane; it makes you an out of control child. Most BPDs are quite capable of controlling their bizarre and abusive behaviors when it suits them.
*Interesting point here:
Most Cluster B’s only mistreat and abuse people who they’re certain will let them get away with it. Validating their emotions, beliefs, assertions and accusations just because they’re having them, which often have no basis in reality, only enables them to continue to jerk you around.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Interesting...Gears of Led Zep said:In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE