You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I noticed that too bro..Most women who have diseases are fu*kin freaks.. :rockon:Gears of Led Zep said:I've went out with a Bipolar chick before, and man she was a freak...sexually. I got a bl0wjob once in her house at a HUGE family gathering, door open and everything. Personality-wise she was just an attention-***** I guess, nothing like the Borderline stuff I read on here. Maybe she had mild Bi-polar.
In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
horaholic said:Bipolar is sort of a symptom of BPD, as well.
BPD by contrast afflicts almost exclusively women, cannot be medicated, and is very complex.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Gotcha! I get it. I guess that doesn't apply to me then as I'm able to endure, difficulty, provocation, or annoyance with calmness but at the sametime, I'm still working on that. I think you're refering to the fourth subtype of the Impulsive BPD type.jophil28 said:Those two behaviors do not qualify you as BPD, however both are commonly seen in BPDs along with some other signs and symptoms.
#2 is probably called, "Low tolerance for frustration" in psych speak.
It is an inability to accept daily disappointment and is characterized by explosive outbursts or a seething resentment when relatively minor events do not work immediately in your favor.
You want what you want and you want it NOW !
Acq said:I must completely avoid drugs, coffee...and limit alcohol
that sucks, these things increase BPD symptoms dramatically. In fact, drug/alcohol abuse can cause BPD in a healthy person, especially combined with prolonged severe stress.Those three things were almost all that I ever saw my bpd ex consume.
Source:
Schizophrenics and Bipolars are mentally ill: Schizophrenics and Bipolars can’t control their bizarre thoughts, behaviors, impulses and/or hallucinations without medication and deserve our compassion and sympathy.
Cluster B individuals are not mentally ill: Many of their behaviors and beliefs are counter to societal norms, but they are not crazy in the sense that they’re not responsible for their actions due to insanity. Having zero impulse control doesn’t make you insane; it makes you an out of control child. Most BPDs are quite capable of controlling their bizarre and abusive behaviors when it suits them.
*Interesting point here:
Most Cluster B’s only mistreat and abuse people who they’re certain will let them get away with it. Validating their emotions, beliefs, assertions and accusations just because they’re having them, which often have no basis in reality, only enables them to continue to jerk you around.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Interesting...Gears of Led Zep said:In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE