Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Bi-Polar VS BPD

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Schizophrenia.
 
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I've went out with a Bipolar chick before, and man she was a freak...sexually. I got a bl0wjob once in her house at a HUGE family gathering, door open and everything. Personality-wise she was just an attention-***** I guess, nothing like the Borderline stuff I read on here. Maybe she had mild Bi-polar.

In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE
 

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Gears of Led Zep said:
I've went out with a Bipolar chick before, and man she was a freak...sexually. I got a bl0wjob once in her house at a HUGE family gathering, door open and everything. Personality-wise she was just an attention-***** I guess, nothing like the Borderline stuff I read on here. Maybe she had mild Bi-polar.

In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE
I noticed that too bro..Most women who have diseases are fu*kin freaks.. :rockon:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bipolar is a world of difference from bpd. It is simpler, treatable with medication, and affects men as much and probably more than women. BPD by contrast afflicts almost exclusively women, cannot be medicated, and is very complex.
 

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Bipolar is sort of a symptom of BPD, as well.
 

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BPD by contrast afflicts almost exclusively women, cannot be medicated, and is very complex.

I'm a BPD man, however, my BPD is mild as sometimes it vanishes for months. But I must completely avoid drugs, coffee (cola, chocolate in large quantities etc too) and limit alcohol intake to 1 glass a day at most + get a lot of sleep to avoid mood swings and all the rest what comes with it. Push/pull is natural for me when it comes to women which I feel attracted to, and it produces very very different results.

BPD is a horrible thing to have, and well it sucks but u can live with it, unlike schizophrenia.
 

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Does being impulsive clarify you as BPD?

1.marked tendency to act unexpectedly and without consideration of the consequences;
2.marked tendency to quarrelsome behaviour and to conflicts with others, especially when impulsive acts are thwarted or criticized

I have to admit that this applies to me greatly, especially with getting things done which can include women. However, what is wrong with being a 'risk-taker' and not considering the consequences. I don't think I can ever change being impulsive and with what stands out as a good thing with my personality in some, can seem like a bad quality? But I don't want to change that. How do I work on #2?

I guess I'm answering my own question with 'not caring what others think'?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Those two behaviors do not qualify you as BPD, however both are commonly seen in BPDs along with some other signs and symptoms.

#2 is probably called, "Low tolerance for frustration" in psych speak.
It is an inability to accept daily disappointment and is characterized by explosive outbursts or a seething resentment when relatively minor events do not work immediately in your favor.
You want what you want and you want it NOW !
 

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jophil28 said:
Those two behaviors do not qualify you as BPD, however both are commonly seen in BPDs along with some other signs and symptoms.

#2 is probably called, "Low tolerance for frustration" in psych speak.
It is an inability to accept daily disappointment and is characterized by explosive outbursts or a seething resentment when relatively minor events do not work immediately in your favor.
You want what you want and you want it NOW !
Gotcha! I get it. I guess that doesn't apply to me then as I'm able to endure, difficulty, provocation, or annoyance with calmness but at the sametime, I'm still working on that. I think you're refering to the fourth subtype of the Impulsive BPD type.

4.difficulty in maintaining any course of action that offers no immediate reward
 

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Those three things were almost all that I ever saw my bpd ex consume.
that sucks, these things increase BPD symptoms dramatically. In fact, drug/alcohol abuse can cause BPD in a healthy person, especially combined with prolonged severe stress.
 

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The Difference:


Schizophrenics and Bipolars are mentally ill: Schizophrenics and Bipolars can’t control their bizarre thoughts, behaviors, impulses and/or hallucinations without medication and deserve our compassion and sympathy.

Cluster B individuals are not mentally ill: Many of their behaviors and beliefs are counter to societal norms, but they are not crazy in the sense that they’re not responsible for their actions due to insanity. Having zero impulse control doesn’t make you insane; it makes you an out of control child. Most BPDs are quite capable of controlling their bizarre and abusive behaviors when it suits them.

*Interesting point here:
Most Cluster B’s only mistreat and abuse people who they’re certain will let them get away with it. Validating their emotions, beliefs, assertions and accusations just because they’re having them, which often have no basis in reality, only enables them to continue to jerk you around.
Source:
http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/201...onality-disorder-helpful-or-harmful-for-nons/
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Gears of Led Zep said:
In Psych though they taught us that sexual promiscuity (sp?) was a huge symptom of Bipolar in women, soo.......SCORE
Interesting...
 
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