"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Better to Call or txt when just wanting to be friends
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
iLoveCookies
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If you want to be friends and then make a move. Well, good luck its hard, its really, you have to have a some sort of redeeming value or this "friend" has always had it in for you as something else
If you want to be friends because you want to take advantage of something (ie: her hot friends) first off make sure that this " friend" doesnt have it in for you, otherwise she will be the catalyst in your destruction.
Well I would mix it up, super small talk over text and real plans over phone ie
Text: hey, what are you doing, nothing, what do you have planned, oh i am going to a party, I will call you when I figure out the details
Call: hey I am going at this and this time to this and this place, do you want me to drive blah blah blah, yada yada yada
brucevangeorge
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That works too. But be wary though. It might signal disinterest and you will NEVER become friends.
EVER.
Oh i asked her out a couple of times and she doesnt really seem to enthustiastic to tell me when she is free, I always ask and she is always busy. So I am fed up with it, and I just want to forget about taking her out and I want her to know that.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
ssj245 said:But i am pretty pissed about her playing games with me and not being straight foward.
Being straight forward is sissy sh*t! You gain power by not letting others know your true intentions...
wow... I should write a book
brucevangeorge
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Explain further. I know you should not be straight forward about certain things like "I want to bang you at the table right now" but.... ?wheelin&dealin said:Being straight forward is sissy sh*t! You gain power by not letting others know your true intentions...
wow... I should write a book
How is being straightforward sissy?
Well some power she wields cuz Im pissed and I dont care about her anymore. Being straight forward about most things is important.
The whole power thing is over rated. How did she gain power, she just made herself get nexted?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
BBX
Master Don Juan
Afc or not. I wanted to get some sort of satisfaction from nexting the girl cuz I know she still likes me on some small level but she has sent me mixed signals and I dont want to deal with that.
I want to just make her feel bad for playing games when she could have had the real deal.
So I want to tell her I only want to be friends to watch her cringe and make her feel stupid for playing games.
I dont care, if she likes me or not, but I just want to do things that most guys dont. At least she will be shocked and ALL I want is her to feel stupid.
Thats it.
iLoveCookies
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The thing is none of us know the whole story. She could be playing hard to get and wants you to put in a solid work trying to get her to see you. Or maybe indeed she is not interested or a combination of both. I would just suggest moving on to your next "subject" and give her a call in the near future or something. If you happen to talk and she finds that you are doing far better than her than you have already won the war my friend.ssj245 said:Afc or not. I wanted to get some sort of satisfaction from nexting the girl cuz I know she still likes me on some small level but she has sent me mixed signals and I dont want to deal with that.
I want to just make her feel bad for playing games when she could have had the real deal.
So I want to tell her I only want to be friends to watch her cringe and make her feel stupid for playing games.
I dont care, if she likes me or not, but I just want to do things that most guys dont. At least she will be shocked and ALL I want is her to feel stupid.
Thats it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why don't you start acting like a MAN? And instead of playing games (wasting your time), you simply stop 100% communication with this girl and move on to better things in life? Such as focusing on yourself and perhaps another woman (or women).ssj245 said:Afc or not. I wanted to get some sort of satisfaction from nexting the girl cuz I know she still likes me on some small level but she has sent me mixed signals and I dont want to deal with that.
I want to just make her feel bad for playing games when she could have had the real deal.
So I want to tell her I only want to be friends to watch her cringe and make her feel stupid for playing games.
I dont care, if she likes me or not, but I just want to do things that most guys dont. At least she will be shocked and ALL I want is her to feel stupid.
Thats it.
squirrels
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Neither. You're not interested in being friends with her.ssj245 said:so ther's for me to text her or call her to tell her that?
But i am pretty pissed about her playing games with me and not being straight foward.
And you're pissed about her playing games because you don't have other girls as options. Get some.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
If you tell a girl that you like her, how do you think she'll respond? She'll probably laugh her a$$ off and dump you on the spot.brucevangeorge said:Explain further. I know you should not be straight forward about certain things like "I want to bang you at the table right now" but.... ?
How is being straightforward sissy?
You want to keep her guessing. Don't ever tell a girl how you feel about her or how much you adore her. Conceal your true intentions. This gives off a great deal of mystery which can create attraction. Use body language, kino and eye contact to show her how you feel about her. Never say it flat out.