"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Better to Call or txt when just wanting to be friends
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
iLoveCookies
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If you want to be friends and then make a move. Well, good luck its hard, its really, you have to have a some sort of redeeming value or this "friend" has always had it in for you as something else
If you want to be friends because you want to take advantage of something (ie: her hot friends) first off make sure that this " friend" doesnt have it in for you, otherwise she will be the catalyst in your destruction.
Well I would mix it up, super small talk over text and real plans over phone ie
Text: hey, what are you doing, nothing, what do you have planned, oh i am going to a party, I will call you when I figure out the details
Call: hey I am going at this and this time to this and this place, do you want me to drive blah blah blah, yada yada yada
brucevangeorge
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That works too. But be wary though. It might signal disinterest and you will NEVER become friends.
EVER.
Oh i asked her out a couple of times and she doesnt really seem to enthustiastic to tell me when she is free, I always ask and she is always busy. So I am fed up with it, and I just want to forget about taking her out and I want her to know that.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
ssj245 said:But i am pretty pissed about her playing games with me and not being straight foward.
Being straight forward is sissy sh*t! You gain power by not letting others know your true intentions...
wow... I should write a book
brucevangeorge
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Explain further. I know you should not be straight forward about certain things like "I want to bang you at the table right now" but.... ?wheelin&dealin said:Being straight forward is sissy sh*t! You gain power by not letting others know your true intentions...
wow... I should write a book
How is being straightforward sissy?
Well some power she wields cuz Im pissed and I dont care about her anymore. Being straight forward about most things is important.
The whole power thing is over rated. How did she gain power, she just made herself get nexted?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
BBX
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Afc or not. I wanted to get some sort of satisfaction from nexting the girl cuz I know she still likes me on some small level but she has sent me mixed signals and I dont want to deal with that.
I want to just make her feel bad for playing games when she could have had the real deal.
So I want to tell her I only want to be friends to watch her cringe and make her feel stupid for playing games.
I dont care, if she likes me or not, but I just want to do things that most guys dont. At least she will be shocked and ALL I want is her to feel stupid.
Thats it.
iLoveCookies
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The thing is none of us know the whole story. She could be playing hard to get and wants you to put in a solid work trying to get her to see you. Or maybe indeed she is not interested or a combination of both. I would just suggest moving on to your next "subject" and give her a call in the near future or something. If you happen to talk and she finds that you are doing far better than her than you have already won the war my friend.ssj245 said:Afc or not. I wanted to get some sort of satisfaction from nexting the girl cuz I know she still likes me on some small level but she has sent me mixed signals and I dont want to deal with that.
I want to just make her feel bad for playing games when she could have had the real deal.
So I want to tell her I only want to be friends to watch her cringe and make her feel stupid for playing games.
I dont care, if she likes me or not, but I just want to do things that most guys dont. At least she will be shocked and ALL I want is her to feel stupid.
Thats it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Why don't you start acting like a MAN? And instead of playing games (wasting your time), you simply stop 100% communication with this girl and move on to better things in life? Such as focusing on yourself and perhaps another woman (or women).ssj245 said:Afc or not. I wanted to get some sort of satisfaction from nexting the girl cuz I know she still likes me on some small level but she has sent me mixed signals and I dont want to deal with that.
I want to just make her feel bad for playing games when she could have had the real deal.
So I want to tell her I only want to be friends to watch her cringe and make her feel stupid for playing games.
I dont care, if she likes me or not, but I just want to do things that most guys dont. At least she will be shocked and ALL I want is her to feel stupid.
Thats it.
squirrels
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Neither. You're not interested in being friends with her.ssj245 said:so ther's for me to text her or call her to tell her that?
But i am pretty pissed about her playing games with me and not being straight foward.
And you're pissed about her playing games because you don't have other girls as options. Get some.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
If you tell a girl that you like her, how do you think she'll respond? She'll probably laugh her a$$ off and dump you on the spot.brucevangeorge said:Explain further. I know you should not be straight forward about certain things like "I want to bang you at the table right now" but.... ?
How is being straightforward sissy?
You want to keep her guessing. Don't ever tell a girl how you feel about her or how much you adore her. Conceal your true intentions. This gives off a great deal of mystery which can create attraction. Use body language, kino and eye contact to show her how you feel about her. Never say it flat out.