TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
What is the best piece of advice someone (family member, friend, coach, movie line) that you have heard that helped you out when you were struggling with something?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Best piece of advice you've recieved
- Thread starter TheVirtualMind
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KontrollerX
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This thread was one of the first I read when I found this site and I'd say that is probably the best advice I've ever gotten in my life.
This thread was one of the first I read when I found this site and I'd say that is probably the best advice I've ever gotten in my life.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You have a choice about what you do as well as how you feel.
Wait a sec, I told myself that....
Wait a sec, I told myself that....
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No matter how hot she is, somebody somewhere is sick of her sh!t.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Dont try and look for an easy life.
LowPlainsDrifter
Senior Don Juan
Well, other than the generic "work hard, and be honest" stuff that my parents, particularly my father passed along (yes, it was true and I did very well by it),
one of my favorite pieces of advice is from JP Morgan (the financier, not the bank) "Think a lot, say a little, *write nothing*"
Also, all of the advice about one-itis I've read over the years really is gold. It's amazing how it frees you up when there is more than one romantic "possibility" in one's life.
one of my favorite pieces of advice is from JP Morgan (the financier, not the bank) "Think a lot, say a little, *write nothing*"
Also, all of the advice about one-itis I've read over the years really is gold. It's amazing how it frees you up when there is more than one romantic "possibility" in one's life.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
Be honest about every intention and desire you have with a girl. NEVER mask it or hide it or pretend it doesn't exist or matter. You will never lose with this mindset.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
theunflushables
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Don't eat the yellow snow.
Five To One
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carpe diem-seize the day
ExcelNPrevail
Don Juan
Wake the f*** up. Your letting your youth go to waste - My grandfather.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Mine was "everyone starts somewhere."
MoveYourAss...
Senior Don Juan
Find out what you really want (or need in a non-neediness way) in your life and arrange that. That is the most important thing.
Something for the way to clubs/bars: Hey, this is YOUR spare time. Enjoy it.
Something for the way to clubs/bars: Hey, this is YOUR spare time. Enjoy it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
"No matter what a stripper tells you, there's no sex in the champagne room...none"
~Chris Rock
"Never leave your friends at the club, to go gambling with a crazy, and likely drugged out stripper"
~Me to my self after an overnight in Clark County Detention center doing said stupid act.
~Chris Rock
"Never leave your friends at the club, to go gambling with a crazy, and likely drugged out stripper"
~Me to my self after an overnight in Clark County Detention center doing said stupid act.
brownbear.
Don Juan
"say it, don't spray it"
also
"would you rather complain about the darkness, or change the f#cking lightbulb?"(paraphrased, i forget where i heard this one, but its awesome)
also
"would you rather complain about the darkness, or change the f#cking lightbulb?"(paraphrased, i forget where i heard this one, but its awesome)
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The entire book of pook in the bible. Not only was it perfect advice when I needed it, I loved the way he wrote it.
The Fifteen Lessons!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
"As you think you shall become" -I heard it from Pook but it originated from Bruce Lee
The Fifteen Lessons!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
"As you think you shall become" -I heard it from Pook but it originated from Bruce Lee
brownbear.
Don Juan
"never forget that people are on many different paths seeking happiness and fulfilment, and just because you aren't on the same path, doesn't necasarily mean the other person is lost"
i forget who said this gem, but i would like to shake thier hand, good stuff.
i forget who said this gem, but i would like to shake thier hand, good stuff.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.