TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
What is the best piece of advice someone (family member, friend, coach, movie line) that you have heard that helped you out when you were struggling with something?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Best piece of advice you've recieved
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
KontrollerX
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This thread was one of the first I read when I found this site and I'd say that is probably the best advice I've ever gotten in my life.
This thread was one of the first I read when I found this site and I'd say that is probably the best advice I've ever gotten in my life.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You have a choice about what you do as well as how you feel.
Wait a sec, I told myself that....
Wait a sec, I told myself that....
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No matter how hot she is, somebody somewhere is sick of her sh!t.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Dont try and look for an easy life.
LowPlainsDrifter
Senior Don Juan
Well, other than the generic "work hard, and be honest" stuff that my parents, particularly my father passed along (yes, it was true and I did very well by it),
one of my favorite pieces of advice is from JP Morgan (the financier, not the bank) "Think a lot, say a little, *write nothing*"
Also, all of the advice about one-itis I've read over the years really is gold. It's amazing how it frees you up when there is more than one romantic "possibility" in one's life.
one of my favorite pieces of advice is from JP Morgan (the financier, not the bank) "Think a lot, say a little, *write nothing*"
Also, all of the advice about one-itis I've read over the years really is gold. It's amazing how it frees you up when there is more than one romantic "possibility" in one's life.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
Be honest about every intention and desire you have with a girl. NEVER mask it or hide it or pretend it doesn't exist or matter. You will never lose with this mindset.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
theunflushables
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Don't eat the yellow snow.
Five To One
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carpe diem-seize the day
ExcelNPrevail
Don Juan
Wake the f*** up. Your letting your youth go to waste - My grandfather.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Mine was "everyone starts somewhere."
MoveYourAss...
Senior Don Juan
Find out what you really want (or need in a non-neediness way) in your life and arrange that. That is the most important thing.
Something for the way to clubs/bars: Hey, this is YOUR spare time. Enjoy it.
Something for the way to clubs/bars: Hey, this is YOUR spare time. Enjoy it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
"No matter what a stripper tells you, there's no sex in the champagne room...none"
~Chris Rock
"Never leave your friends at the club, to go gambling with a crazy, and likely drugged out stripper"
~Me to my self after an overnight in Clark County Detention center doing said stupid act.
~Chris Rock
"Never leave your friends at the club, to go gambling with a crazy, and likely drugged out stripper"
~Me to my self after an overnight in Clark County Detention center doing said stupid act.
brownbear.
Don Juan
"say it, don't spray it"
also
"would you rather complain about the darkness, or change the f#cking lightbulb?"(paraphrased, i forget where i heard this one, but its awesome)
also
"would you rather complain about the darkness, or change the f#cking lightbulb?"(paraphrased, i forget where i heard this one, but its awesome)
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The entire book of pook in the bible. Not only was it perfect advice when I needed it, I loved the way he wrote it.
The Fifteen Lessons!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
"As you think you shall become" -I heard it from Pook but it originated from Bruce Lee
The Fifteen Lessons!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
"As you think you shall become" -I heard it from Pook but it originated from Bruce Lee
brownbear.
Don Juan
"never forget that people are on many different paths seeking happiness and fulfilment, and just because you aren't on the same path, doesn't necasarily mean the other person is lost"
i forget who said this gem, but i would like to shake thier hand, good stuff.
i forget who said this gem, but i would like to shake thier hand, good stuff.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.