TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
What is the best piece of advice someone (family member, friend, coach, movie line) that you have heard that helped you out when you were struggling with something?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Best piece of advice you've recieved
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KontrollerX
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This thread was one of the first I read when I found this site and I'd say that is probably the best advice I've ever gotten in my life.
This thread was one of the first I read when I found this site and I'd say that is probably the best advice I've ever gotten in my life.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You have a choice about what you do as well as how you feel.
Wait a sec, I told myself that....
Wait a sec, I told myself that....
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No matter how hot she is, somebody somewhere is sick of her sh!t.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Dont try and look for an easy life.
LowPlainsDrifter
Senior Don Juan
Well, other than the generic "work hard, and be honest" stuff that my parents, particularly my father passed along (yes, it was true and I did very well by it),
one of my favorite pieces of advice is from JP Morgan (the financier, not the bank) "Think a lot, say a little, *write nothing*"
Also, all of the advice about one-itis I've read over the years really is gold. It's amazing how it frees you up when there is more than one romantic "possibility" in one's life.
one of my favorite pieces of advice is from JP Morgan (the financier, not the bank) "Think a lot, say a little, *write nothing*"
Also, all of the advice about one-itis I've read over the years really is gold. It's amazing how it frees you up when there is more than one romantic "possibility" in one's life.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
Be honest about every intention and desire you have with a girl. NEVER mask it or hide it or pretend it doesn't exist or matter. You will never lose with this mindset.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
theunflushables
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Don't eat the yellow snow.
Five To One
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carpe diem-seize the day
ExcelNPrevail
Don Juan
Wake the f*** up. Your letting your youth go to waste - My grandfather.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Mine was "everyone starts somewhere."
MoveYourAss...
Senior Don Juan
Find out what you really want (or need in a non-neediness way) in your life and arrange that. That is the most important thing.
Something for the way to clubs/bars: Hey, this is YOUR spare time. Enjoy it.
Something for the way to clubs/bars: Hey, this is YOUR spare time. Enjoy it.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
"No matter what a stripper tells you, there's no sex in the champagne room...none"
~Chris Rock
"Never leave your friends at the club, to go gambling with a crazy, and likely drugged out stripper"
~Me to my self after an overnight in Clark County Detention center doing said stupid act.
~Chris Rock
"Never leave your friends at the club, to go gambling with a crazy, and likely drugged out stripper"
~Me to my self after an overnight in Clark County Detention center doing said stupid act.
brownbear.
Don Juan
"say it, don't spray it"
also
"would you rather complain about the darkness, or change the f#cking lightbulb?"(paraphrased, i forget where i heard this one, but its awesome)
also
"would you rather complain about the darkness, or change the f#cking lightbulb?"(paraphrased, i forget where i heard this one, but its awesome)
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The entire book of pook in the bible. Not only was it perfect advice when I needed it, I loved the way he wrote it.
The Fifteen Lessons!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
"As you think you shall become" -I heard it from Pook but it originated from Bruce Lee
The Fifteen Lessons!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
"As you think you shall become" -I heard it from Pook but it originated from Bruce Lee
brownbear.
Don Juan
"never forget that people are on many different paths seeking happiness and fulfilment, and just because you aren't on the same path, doesn't necasarily mean the other person is lost"
i forget who said this gem, but i would like to shake thier hand, good stuff.
i forget who said this gem, but i would like to shake thier hand, good stuff.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.