TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
What is the best piece of advice someone (family member, friend, coach, movie line) that you have heard that helped you out when you were struggling with something?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Best piece of advice you've recieved
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
KontrollerX
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This thread was one of the first I read when I found this site and I'd say that is probably the best advice I've ever gotten in my life.
This thread was one of the first I read when I found this site and I'd say that is probably the best advice I've ever gotten in my life.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You have a choice about what you do as well as how you feel.
Wait a sec, I told myself that....
Wait a sec, I told myself that....
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
No matter how hot she is, somebody somewhere is sick of her sh!t.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Dont try and look for an easy life.
LowPlainsDrifter
Senior Don Juan
Well, other than the generic "work hard, and be honest" stuff that my parents, particularly my father passed along (yes, it was true and I did very well by it),
one of my favorite pieces of advice is from JP Morgan (the financier, not the bank) "Think a lot, say a little, *write nothing*"
Also, all of the advice about one-itis I've read over the years really is gold. It's amazing how it frees you up when there is more than one romantic "possibility" in one's life.
one of my favorite pieces of advice is from JP Morgan (the financier, not the bank) "Think a lot, say a little, *write nothing*"
Also, all of the advice about one-itis I've read over the years really is gold. It's amazing how it frees you up when there is more than one romantic "possibility" in one's life.
WhitePimp
Master Don Juan
Be honest about every intention and desire you have with a girl. NEVER mask it or hide it or pretend it doesn't exist or matter. You will never lose with this mindset.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
theunflushables
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Don't eat the yellow snow.
Five To One
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carpe diem-seize the day
ExcelNPrevail
Don Juan
Wake the f*** up. Your letting your youth go to waste - My grandfather.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Mine was "everyone starts somewhere."
MoveYourAss...
Senior Don Juan
Find out what you really want (or need in a non-neediness way) in your life and arrange that. That is the most important thing.
Something for the way to clubs/bars: Hey, this is YOUR spare time. Enjoy it.
Something for the way to clubs/bars: Hey, this is YOUR spare time. Enjoy it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
"No matter what a stripper tells you, there's no sex in the champagne room...none"
~Chris Rock
"Never leave your friends at the club, to go gambling with a crazy, and likely drugged out stripper"
~Me to my self after an overnight in Clark County Detention center doing said stupid act.
~Chris Rock
"Never leave your friends at the club, to go gambling with a crazy, and likely drugged out stripper"
~Me to my self after an overnight in Clark County Detention center doing said stupid act.
brownbear.
Don Juan
"say it, don't spray it"
also
"would you rather complain about the darkness, or change the f#cking lightbulb?"(paraphrased, i forget where i heard this one, but its awesome)
also
"would you rather complain about the darkness, or change the f#cking lightbulb?"(paraphrased, i forget where i heard this one, but its awesome)
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The entire book of pook in the bible. Not only was it perfect advice when I needed it, I loved the way he wrote it.
The Fifteen Lessons!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
"As you think you shall become" -I heard it from Pook but it originated from Bruce Lee
The Fifteen Lessons!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
"As you think you shall become" -I heard it from Pook but it originated from Bruce Lee
brownbear.
Don Juan
"never forget that people are on many different paths seeking happiness and fulfilment, and just because you aren't on the same path, doesn't necasarily mean the other person is lost"
i forget who said this gem, but i would like to shake thier hand, good stuff.
i forget who said this gem, but i would like to shake thier hand, good stuff.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.