I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
NFC said:These guys don't know what they're talking about. They're too afraid to swallow their masculinity to even think about playing a girl a song. Playing a song like that takes balls, and it can swoon a girl off her feet, if done right. There is a time and place for everything. Just because you play a song for a girl and it says "I love you" in it, doesn't mean you love her.. I mean.. it's just a song. I don't see what the big deal is. I don't suggest it as a way of confessing your undying love.. just be slick and cool about it. If YOU want to play it for her.. then do what you want. That's what being a man is about, making your own decisions.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It is not totally AFC.GaryUranga said:its totally afc and it could hook a girl depending on how you do it IMO, if youre gonna cofess your love thru a song to her its REALLY AFC
OK, do NOT knock songs with 3 chords. Some of the best songs in the world have only 3 chords.sexxyback said:If you are going to be a complete tool and use guitar to impress girls, at least play something that requires some skillz instead of the usual 3 chord crap.
I would suggest November Rain - all the way through including all solos.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Have you ever played/wrote a song for a girl? Are you speaking from experience? I didn't think so. So stfu. I AM speaking from experience, it can do a lot for your game if done correctly.sexxyback said:No, you don't know what you're talking about. If you want you can take this guy's advice and go play 'wonderful tonight' for this girl. Go ahead, and tell me what happens two weeks later when she tells you 'you're too nice' and starts flaking on you.
Not really. Just pentatonic wanking for the most part.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:If you can play a really well done love song at the right time, then it probably wiill have some positive effects.
Man, if I could sing... I would write the hell out of them.
lol... if you can play maggot brain you're already a master guitar player.
Yes. So you stfu. It is the most supplicating afc behavior of them all. Do you buy them flowers, too?NFC said:Have you ever played/wrote a song for a girl? Are you speaking from experience? I didn't think so. So stfu. I AM speaking from experience, it can do a lot for your game if done correctly.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.