Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
NFC said:These guys don't know what they're talking about. They're too afraid to swallow their masculinity to even think about playing a girl a song. Playing a song like that takes balls, and it can swoon a girl off her feet, if done right. There is a time and place for everything. Just because you play a song for a girl and it says "I love you" in it, doesn't mean you love her.. I mean.. it's just a song. I don't see what the big deal is. I don't suggest it as a way of confessing your undying love.. just be slick and cool about it. If YOU want to play it for her.. then do what you want. That's what being a man is about, making your own decisions.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It is not totally AFC.GaryUranga said:its totally afc and it could hook a girl depending on how you do it IMO, if youre gonna cofess your love thru a song to her its REALLY AFC
OK, do NOT knock songs with 3 chords. Some of the best songs in the world have only 3 chords.sexxyback said:If you are going to be a complete tool and use guitar to impress girls, at least play something that requires some skillz instead of the usual 3 chord crap.
I would suggest November Rain - all the way through including all solos.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Have you ever played/wrote a song for a girl? Are you speaking from experience? I didn't think so. So stfu. I AM speaking from experience, it can do a lot for your game if done correctly.sexxyback said:No, you don't know what you're talking about. If you want you can take this guy's advice and go play 'wonderful tonight' for this girl. Go ahead, and tell me what happens two weeks later when she tells you 'you're too nice' and starts flaking on you.
Not really. Just pentatonic wanking for the most part.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:If you can play a really well done love song at the right time, then it probably wiill have some positive effects.
Man, if I could sing... I would write the hell out of them.
lol... if you can play maggot brain you're already a master guitar player.
Yes. So you stfu. It is the most supplicating afc behavior of them all. Do you buy them flowers, too?NFC said:Have you ever played/wrote a song for a girl? Are you speaking from experience? I didn't think so. So stfu. I AM speaking from experience, it can do a lot for your game if done correctly.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.