She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
NFC said:These guys don't know what they're talking about. They're too afraid to swallow their masculinity to even think about playing a girl a song. Playing a song like that takes balls, and it can swoon a girl off her feet, if done right. There is a time and place for everything. Just because you play a song for a girl and it says "I love you" in it, doesn't mean you love her.. I mean.. it's just a song. I don't see what the big deal is. I don't suggest it as a way of confessing your undying love.. just be slick and cool about it. If YOU want to play it for her.. then do what you want. That's what being a man is about, making your own decisions.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
It is not totally AFC.GaryUranga said:its totally afc and it could hook a girl depending on how you do it IMO, if youre gonna cofess your love thru a song to her its REALLY AFC
OK, do NOT knock songs with 3 chords. Some of the best songs in the world have only 3 chords.sexxyback said:If you are going to be a complete tool and use guitar to impress girls, at least play something that requires some skillz instead of the usual 3 chord crap.
I would suggest November Rain - all the way through including all solos.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Have you ever played/wrote a song for a girl? Are you speaking from experience? I didn't think so. So stfu. I AM speaking from experience, it can do a lot for your game if done correctly.sexxyback said:No, you don't know what you're talking about. If you want you can take this guy's advice and go play 'wonderful tonight' for this girl. Go ahead, and tell me what happens two weeks later when she tells you 'you're too nice' and starts flaking on you.
Not really. Just pentatonic wanking for the most part.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:If you can play a really well done love song at the right time, then it probably wiill have some positive effects.
Man, if I could sing... I would write the hell out of them.
lol... if you can play maggot brain you're already a master guitar player.
Yes. So you stfu. It is the most supplicating afc behavior of them all. Do you buy them flowers, too?NFC said:Have you ever played/wrote a song for a girl? Are you speaking from experience? I didn't think so. So stfu. I AM speaking from experience, it can do a lot for your game if done correctly.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.