"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Best Guitar Songs for Attraction...?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I would suggest November Rain - all the way through including all solos.
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Grand Wizzard Alamar
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If you're horrible at singing, I wouldn't try it unless you're planning on intentionally making her laugh... ha, if you're average/okay then you can get a little bit of wording in there.
psstsh.. I can sing sexy (not "good") when I'm by myself, but I can't really focus my voice that well in public..
Yeah, so it's all at your own risk... I wouldn't let it all out through a song though. Don't be hasty.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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No, you don't know what you're talking about. If you want you can take this guy's advice and go play 'wonderful tonight' for this girl. Go ahead, and tell me what happens two weeks later when she tells you 'you're too nice' and starts flaking on you.
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If you can play guitar really good, play some John Mayer. My old roommate had a girl over, and he'd sing and play Daughters, and My Stupid Mouth, and some Jack Johnson. This chick didn't move away, wasn't afraid....didn't think less of him. Rather, I watched this girl for two hours...simply awed by my roommate.
Case in Point, STFU if you haven't done it.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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you are so beautifullll and i will tell you all about how i'll love you forever, support you forever, and how we'll be together forever, etc etc
and then with a really big smile, move your eyebrows up and down very fast (both at same time)
It is not totally AFC.GaryUranga said:
You should not speak with such certainty.
I am a guitarist, and i have used my guitar and ukulele on many occasions as a tool within my game.
If you do it right, you can show some serious DHVs.
OK, do NOT knock songs with 3 chords. Some of the best songs in the world have only 3 chords.sexxyback said:
I have a little thing for emo chicks. When I play them some radio head(street spirit) or mad world or some other depressing song it gets them all horny.
But normal chicks I'll bust out "Jack and Dian" or "sweet home Alabama" or some other fun song to make them laugh. It's awesome around the campfire.
OMG this is soooooooooooooooo embarrassing but I played my gf "you're beautiful" by James blunt in my afc days. It made my her cry. Where still together. But only because I changed my ways. Now I don't even listen to love songs.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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If you got an electric guitar (or a very well made acoustic) try doing some improvised tapping like at the end of eruption by eddie van halen coz lets face it, it looks impressive, it's short, and it's a lot easier to play than it looks. And you can always stick in some random stuff using the whammy bar and no musical talent what so ever if you got one while doin some goofy grin for fun to make her smile
.That's what i generally do if I got a guitar handy, and if you wanna get some kino in just pass the guitar to her and tell her to strum any rythm. You can then get behind her and just shape out some simple chord sequences to fit the rythm, this will make her feel included and prolly make her laugh. Otherwise you can just say some short line like "You horny enough to pounce on me yet?" and walk out or something like that.
Improvisation is key
Grand Wizzard Alamar
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Man, if I could sing... I would write the hell out of them.
lol... if you can play maggot brain you're already a master guitar player.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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