"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Best Guitar Songs for Attraction...?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I would suggest November Rain - all the way through including all solos.
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Grand Wizzard Alamar
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If you're horrible at singing, I wouldn't try it unless you're planning on intentionally making her laugh... ha, if you're average/okay then you can get a little bit of wording in there.
psstsh.. I can sing sexy (not "good") when I'm by myself, but I can't really focus my voice that well in public..
Yeah, so it's all at your own risk... I wouldn't let it all out through a song though. Don't be hasty.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NFC said:
No, you don't know what you're talking about. If you want you can take this guy's advice and go play 'wonderful tonight' for this girl. Go ahead, and tell me what happens two weeks later when she tells you 'you're too nice' and starts flaking on you.
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If you can play guitar really good, play some John Mayer. My old roommate had a girl over, and he'd sing and play Daughters, and My Stupid Mouth, and some Jack Johnson. This chick didn't move away, wasn't afraid....didn't think less of him. Rather, I watched this girl for two hours...simply awed by my roommate.
Case in Point, STFU if you haven't done it.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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you are so beautifullll and i will tell you all about how i'll love you forever, support you forever, and how we'll be together forever, etc etc
and then with a really big smile, move your eyebrows up and down very fast (both at same time)
It is not totally AFC.GaryUranga said:
You should not speak with such certainty.
I am a guitarist, and i have used my guitar and ukulele on many occasions as a tool within my game.
If you do it right, you can show some serious DHVs.
OK, do NOT knock songs with 3 chords. Some of the best songs in the world have only 3 chords.sexxyback said:
I have a little thing for emo chicks. When I play them some radio head(street spirit) or mad world or some other depressing song it gets them all horny.
But normal chicks I'll bust out "Jack and Dian" or "sweet home Alabama" or some other fun song to make them laugh. It's awesome around the campfire.
OMG this is soooooooooooooooo embarrassing but I played my gf "you're beautiful" by James blunt in my afc days. It made my her cry. Where still together. But only because I changed my ways. Now I don't even listen to love songs.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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If you got an electric guitar (or a very well made acoustic) try doing some improvised tapping like at the end of eruption by eddie van halen coz lets face it, it looks impressive, it's short, and it's a lot easier to play than it looks. And you can always stick in some random stuff using the whammy bar and no musical talent what so ever if you got one while doin some goofy grin for fun to make her smile
.That's what i generally do if I got a guitar handy, and if you wanna get some kino in just pass the guitar to her and tell her to strum any rythm. You can then get behind her and just shape out some simple chord sequences to fit the rythm, this will make her feel included and prolly make her laugh. Otherwise you can just say some short line like "You horny enough to pounce on me yet?" and walk out or something like that.
Improvisation is key
Grand Wizzard Alamar
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Man, if I could sing... I would write the hell out of them.
lol... if you can play maggot brain you're already a master guitar player.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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