I've been in a LTR with this girl for about 8 months. It's been a LDR for about 1 month. So, one of my good good friends somehow has her number. He talked to her from time to time, I let him. It's not like I'm insecure about it. So anyway, he becomes angry because I let him speak to her (talk about insecurity) and then he says: "I'm going to try to take your girl away from you". I still incouraged him and told him good luck at this point. But what really bothers me is that he would say something like this let alone think it. What a friend huh?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Best Friend trying to take your GF.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
how can you call him a "good good friend" when he says something like that?? that is outright insolent! I don't even want to know how your not so good friends are like 
Stealth Rebelfighter
Don Juan
I personally wonder: Maybe hes angry that you let him speak to her that hes just saying **** just to get you rowled up??
Ya ever had a friend with a different set of morals as you? Lets say that Im a total pimpdaddy that get around all the time but my friend attests that idea. He would consider you more like a *****. Plus he may stick to that idea to the point where he feels should be feel the same way he does. Yes....Everybody should that ***** as much as he does. Now since physical violence is not the culturaly accepted way of dealing with "problems" the next option is to push their beliefs through preaching, griping, mocking, or starting some ****.
On a final note: If your bud is kinda like what I described....I dont care if hes just tryin to press his beliefs, Id just want to tell him to **** off. Like I said I dont know him. Whatever
Ya ever had a friend with a different set of morals as you? Lets say that Im a total pimpdaddy that get around all the time but my friend attests that idea. He would consider you more like a *****. Plus he may stick to that idea to the point where he feels should be feel the same way he does. Yes....Everybody should that ***** as much as he does. Now since physical violence is not the culturaly accepted way of dealing with "problems" the next option is to push their beliefs through preaching, griping, mocking, or starting some ****.
On a final note: If your bud is kinda like what I described....I dont care if hes just tryin to press his beliefs, Id just want to tell him to **** off. Like I said I dont know him. Whatever
cfajason
Don Juan
Beat the living **** out of him!!!!!!!!!!!!!He is not a friend!!!!
blueangel83
Senior Don Juan
That is actually a good test to see if she is wifey material.
Wifey Material - will be faithful to you no matter what.
Wifey Material - will be faithful to you no matter what.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Bros before hoes. He should of thought of your friendship before he went to try to get this girl. I suggest you stop being friends with him. How can you trust him? He tried to take your girl imagine what he would try to take from you if he had the chance.
LittleBigOne
Don Juan
I was also in a situation like that with a former GF. My 'friend' was visiting my GF n the store where she used to work and asked things about my relation with her etc. And all the time he saw her he was trying to get her attention. He was just jealous because he didn't had a GF and i did. I never see him again, i hope you see that lad who is chasing your GF never again either. Kick him out of your life.
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SparkleMotion
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This guy really doesn't sound like much of a friend.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
Doesn't sound like your choice of "best" friends is the greatest. Ignore the guy and move on with your life. Remain confident and don't start being AFC about it to your gf. If she's going to cheat, there's really nothing you can do.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
GirlCrazy
Master Don Juan
Yeah, that's a pretty good test for her.
Your buddy already failed the test. Bros before hoes - no exceptions.
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Why was he calling your GF??? I've never understood the need to have my GF and friends become buddies.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Bros before hoes, dude.
SELF-MASTERY
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How did he get her number???
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Banned
Bros before hoes.
so your saying shes a ho?
can't argue with that
alright we'll give your a break tits.
what he's trying to say is that if she is faithful then she has a good trait which he looks for in a wife.
Made perfect sence to me.
so your saying shes a ho?
can't argue with that
alright we'll give your a break tits.
what he's trying to say is that if she is faithful then she has a good trait which he looks for in a wife.
Made perfect sence to me.
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So if she doesnt cheat with the other bonehead thats a green flag thats shes marriage material?
You guys really are desperate.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.