I've been in a LTR with this girl for about 8 months. It's been a LDR for about 1 month. So, one of my good good friends somehow has her number. He talked to her from time to time, I let him. It's not like I'm insecure about it. So anyway, he becomes angry because I let him speak to her (talk about insecurity) and then he says: "I'm going to try to take your girl away from you". I still incouraged him and told him good luck at this point. But what really bothers me is that he would say something like this let alone think it. What a friend huh?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Best Friend trying to take your GF.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
how can you call him a "good good friend" when he says something like that?? that is outright insolent! I don't even want to know how your not so good friends are like 
Stealth Rebelfighter
Don Juan
I personally wonder: Maybe hes angry that you let him speak to her that hes just saying **** just to get you rowled up??
Ya ever had a friend with a different set of morals as you? Lets say that Im a total pimpdaddy that get around all the time but my friend attests that idea. He would consider you more like a *****. Plus he may stick to that idea to the point where he feels should be feel the same way he does. Yes....Everybody should that ***** as much as he does. Now since physical violence is not the culturaly accepted way of dealing with "problems" the next option is to push their beliefs through preaching, griping, mocking, or starting some ****.
On a final note: If your bud is kinda like what I described....I dont care if hes just tryin to press his beliefs, Id just want to tell him to **** off. Like I said I dont know him. Whatever
Ya ever had a friend with a different set of morals as you? Lets say that Im a total pimpdaddy that get around all the time but my friend attests that idea. He would consider you more like a *****. Plus he may stick to that idea to the point where he feels should be feel the same way he does. Yes....Everybody should that ***** as much as he does. Now since physical violence is not the culturaly accepted way of dealing with "problems" the next option is to push their beliefs through preaching, griping, mocking, or starting some ****.
On a final note: If your bud is kinda like what I described....I dont care if hes just tryin to press his beliefs, Id just want to tell him to **** off. Like I said I dont know him. Whatever
cfajason
Don Juan
Beat the living **** out of him!!!!!!!!!!!!!He is not a friend!!!!
blueangel83
Senior Don Juan
That is actually a good test to see if she is wifey material.
Wifey Material - will be faithful to you no matter what.
Wifey Material - will be faithful to you no matter what.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Bros before hoes. He should of thought of your friendship before he went to try to get this girl. I suggest you stop being friends with him. How can you trust him? He tried to take your girl imagine what he would try to take from you if he had the chance.
LittleBigOne
Don Juan
I was also in a situation like that with a former GF. My 'friend' was visiting my GF n the store where she used to work and asked things about my relation with her etc. And all the time he saw her he was trying to get her attention. He was just jealous because he didn't had a GF and i did. I never see him again, i hope you see that lad who is chasing your GF never again either. Kick him out of your life.
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SparkleMotion
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This guy really doesn't sound like much of a friend.
WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
Doesn't sound like your choice of "best" friends is the greatest. Ignore the guy and move on with your life. Remain confident and don't start being AFC about it to your gf. If she's going to cheat, there's really nothing you can do.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
GirlCrazy
Master Don Juan
Yeah, that's a pretty good test for her.
Your buddy already failed the test. Bros before hoes - no exceptions.
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Why was he calling your GF??? I've never understood the need to have my GF and friends become buddies.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Bros before hoes, dude.
SELF-MASTERY
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How did he get her number???
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Banned
Bros before hoes.
so your saying shes a ho?
can't argue with that
alright we'll give your a break tits.
what he's trying to say is that if she is faithful then she has a good trait which he looks for in a wife.
Made perfect sence to me.
so your saying shes a ho?
can't argue with that
alright we'll give your a break tits.
what he's trying to say is that if she is faithful then she has a good trait which he looks for in a wife.
Made perfect sence to me.
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So if she doesnt cheat with the other bonehead thats a green flag thats shes marriage material?
You guys really are desperate.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.