ManUnited01
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Is it fine to ask a girl straight up if she is into you? I just get impatient and can't be bothered working on potentials that ultimately aren't interested.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Being Straight Up
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NO! Take that back. HELL NO! You may as well change your name to AFC. All girls are potentials until you close. Get that in your head. You either like her enough to work on it and close, or you move on.
Be patient, cause if you play your cards right you'll land a big reward. Besides, a real DJ knows when a girl is into him... not "if" she's into him.
Be patient, cause if you play your cards right you'll land a big reward. Besides, a real DJ knows when a girl is into him... not "if" she's into him.
ManUnited01
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Thanks DeePee. I am just going to sit back and not worry about it. If girls are interested, they'll be the ones getting in touch with me. Girls want a guy to worry about and think "What is he up to at the moment?", not vice versa.
Infamous_Wolf
Don Juan
I think you should be feeling a vibe from the girl that she likes you. If you get that vibe, any time you're talking with a girl you want, you should point it out to her. You know, the kinda ****y casual "You are so in to me right now. You're not even trying to hide it." You should get a good reaction out of that one.
The reason why it's wrong is once you ask her if she's into you, you show her that you are attracted to her, and wants to know if she's attracted to you.
Like all DJs say, actions > words. If you want her to be attracted to you, do alittle kino, make her feel comfortable, and stuff.
But once you actually ask, you show her that you are actually interested in her, which is not what we want. By doing so, she might find you, not the "type" that she wanted.
Remember, once you display any interest, you might as well be ready to go home(alone). Unless you've been meeting the very same girl for a few dates, it's best not to show any interest.
Like all DJs say, actions > words. If you want her to be attracted to you, do alittle kino, make her feel comfortable, and stuff.
But once you actually ask, you show her that you are actually interested in her, which is not what we want. By doing so, she might find you, not the "type" that she wanted.
Remember, once you display any interest, you might as well be ready to go home(alone). Unless you've been meeting the very same girl for a few dates, it's best not to show any interest.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
Change "Are you into me?" with "I'M into you!!" - - - 
Grizou
Don Juan
That actually does the magic. If you put it in a witty and confident context. Even though I prefer the "Eventually, you will fall for me!" line or something alike.Randallpink83 said:Change "Are you into me?" with "I'M into you!!" - - -