ManUnited01
Don Juan
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Is it fine to ask a girl straight up if she is into you? I just get impatient and can't be bothered working on potentials that ultimately aren't interested.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Being Straight Up
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
NO! Take that back. HELL NO! You may as well change your name to AFC. All girls are potentials until you close. Get that in your head. You either like her enough to work on it and close, or you move on.
Be patient, cause if you play your cards right you'll land a big reward. Besides, a real DJ knows when a girl is into him... not "if" she's into him.
Be patient, cause if you play your cards right you'll land a big reward. Besides, a real DJ knows when a girl is into him... not "if" she's into him.
ManUnited01
Don Juan
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Thanks DeePee. I am just going to sit back and not worry about it. If girls are interested, they'll be the ones getting in touch with me. Girls want a guy to worry about and think "What is he up to at the moment?", not vice versa.
Infamous_Wolf
Don Juan
I think you should be feeling a vibe from the girl that she likes you. If you get that vibe, any time you're talking with a girl you want, you should point it out to her. You know, the kinda ****y casual "You are so in to me right now. You're not even trying to hide it." You should get a good reaction out of that one.
The reason why it's wrong is once you ask her if she's into you, you show her that you are attracted to her, and wants to know if she's attracted to you.
Like all DJs say, actions > words. If you want her to be attracted to you, do alittle kino, make her feel comfortable, and stuff.
But once you actually ask, you show her that you are actually interested in her, which is not what we want. By doing so, she might find you, not the "type" that she wanted.
Remember, once you display any interest, you might as well be ready to go home(alone). Unless you've been meeting the very same girl for a few dates, it's best not to show any interest.
Like all DJs say, actions > words. If you want her to be attracted to you, do alittle kino, make her feel comfortable, and stuff.
But once you actually ask, you show her that you are actually interested in her, which is not what we want. By doing so, she might find you, not the "type" that she wanted.
Remember, once you display any interest, you might as well be ready to go home(alone). Unless you've been meeting the very same girl for a few dates, it's best not to show any interest.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
Change "Are you into me?" with "I'M into you!!" - - - 
Grizou
Don Juan
That actually does the magic. If you put it in a witty and confident context. Even though I prefer the "Eventually, you will fall for me!" line or something alike.Randallpink83 said:Change "Are you into me?" with "I'M into you!!" - - -