"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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These men aren’t shaming. They are operating on their biology + desires. This is a men’s forum and they are only speaking on a lot of things that we are subject to based on OUR biology and masculinity.
I agree with your statement entirely. Which makes it kind of funny that refraining from slvt shaming, making a girl feel that she is not being judged, is a long held PUA technique to get a woman to sleep with them. But guys won't truly value such women, not beyond a sexual experience.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Now I'm confused, you said u r spinning plates?



That's the normal frame of a dominant man.
I was for about a year now. It’s gotten out of control and I don’t feel great about it. Hence all the threads. I think I just need to step back and reevaluate.
 

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Most people allow themselves to be led by societal or religious 'norms'. This makes social sense as peole long to fit in to the social group that they exist around.

The idea of something being 'deviant' is rooted in societal, religious or personal definition. One person's definition of deviant may not be another person's definition of deviant. Just because there is a disagreement in definition, I don't believe that gives anyon a right to judge via their standards. That's wholly self centered.
This is the 'enlightened' scientific/ sociological view from nowhere. Fact is though we can not get outside of our skins. Reason itself, if we use it, presupposes notions of normativity such as goodness, truth, beauty, unity etc. To say everything is relative is futile as it undermines its own assertion that its true. This critical understanding of reason is largely lacking today. I'd recommend a reading of the Socratic dialogues... followed on by Kant. :)
 

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Another thing i am noticing about dating and sleeping with multiple as a female is that it’s making me an emotional train wreck. and i usually well balanced and can manage some logic. it’s definitely harder to maintain with a rotation of men. i am not sure why. i am used to having one rock stable man.
OK, this should be a flashing neon sign to you. Ignore it at your peril. Your emotions are your inner core and life... despite what superficial reason [ego justification] has to say on the matter.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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This is the 'enlightened' scientific/ sociological view from nowhere. Fact is though we can not get outside of our skins. Reason itself, if we use it, presupposes notions of normativity such as goodness, truth, beauty, unity etc. To say everything is relative is futile as it undermines its own assertion that its true. This critical understanding of reason is largely lacking today. I'd recommend a reading of the Socratic dialogues... followed on by Kant. :)
If we were to compare different civilizations, oftentimes one would be agast at the other.

Take past cannibalism in papua new guinea for example.

For us, it's barbarism but for them it's a way of life.

But there are universal truths, such as a high mileage women, which were already spelt out by some members.
 

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If we were to compare different civilizations, oftentimes one would be agast at the other.

Take past cannibalism in papua new guinea for example.

For us, it's barbarism but for them it's a way of life.

But there are universal truths, such as a high mileage women, which were already spelt out by some members.
It's the difference between civilization and barbarism. We'd soon revert to barbarism if we didn't keep up the standards. Fascist Europe in the 30s was a reversion to barbarism.
 
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