"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
being nice, but still getting the girl
- Thread starter trd323
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Doors, your walking you in front of her..open it and let her in.
Dont open it just because you tihnk you should or whatever.
Shes just another guy-friend remember?
Nothing special.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
It's not (within bounds of reason, or course), what you do, so much as how you do it.
Having elan beats the hell out of cluttering your mind with lots of gambits and rules.
JackPrescott
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Depending upon the situation. IF there is REAL chemistry, and IF the woman is gonna "put out" sure.Originally posted by trd323
When we say we should be the man, AND have confidence does that mean we dont have to be chivelrous(sp) like opening doors, paying for dinner, etc? or do we still do that stuff
Not for the "LJBF" females, let them buy their own dinner, and open their own doors.
PVSSY-EATER
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Just dont think by you opening a door, buying her catfish, or mowing her lawn that you are going to get puzzy. Hey, you can do whatever you want just dont expect anything in return.
Thats why don juans save their money, because it gets them no where. Not unless, you screw a hooker, and I KNOWWWW you better not be doing that.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Ofcourse that's if I definately want a physical relationship with a girl. My current girl...well the same thing happened with her, but we chill and hang out too... but then we have sex... so never mind it ALWAYS applies when i'm dating a girl.
PVSSY-EATER
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frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
didnt ur mother tell you anything?
u dont have to go to opening doors and all that..unless you want to.
you dont have to put on a show or be a jerk.
what you need to be is COOL, CALM, and CONFIDENT.
this will take you on a good course.
people assume if you are nice you are AFC..thats not true