Popeyes
Don Juan
Yea is it a good or bad thing if people have been hearing that you're "pimping" alot of girls.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Being known as a pimp @ university good or bad?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
good one. I'll have to remember that.
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I'd say being widely known for anything that isnt embarassing would be a great thing.
Being known for "pimping" though.... I think you can work with that. Use a line like Charm said, and just allow for the reputation to bring women to you. Give them the chance to see the real you. They'll feel privledged.
On the other hand, if they really take the rumors to heart, you might face a lot of resistance. Then its your job to play it kool and let them decide for themselves what to think about you. If you try to disprove it, they'll most likely believe it even more.
Just be you man, either way.
Being known for "pimping" though.... I think you can work with that. Use a line like Charm said, and just allow for the reputation to bring women to you. Give them the chance to see the real you. They'll feel privledged.
On the other hand, if they really take the rumors to heart, you might face a lot of resistance. Then its your job to play it kool and let them decide for themselves what to think about you. If you try to disprove it, they'll most likely believe it even more.
Just be you man, either way.
Definitely a good thing on the whole. Universities are more like school than the real world in the sense that social proof is important. Just be sure that you don't seriously **** someone over cos that could ruin your reputation.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Popeyes
Don Juan
Yea Btw this was posted on facebook so its not just a word of mouth thing so I'm a little worried it might be taken a little too seriously by some. Or am I just being paranoid?
I have been working at hospital for 8 years and banged quite a few about 8 girls there. So over the years people have gotten to know me. When new girls come in they are attracted to me but girls tell them that I am bad news. It could be an advantage and a disadvantage, because when your talking to them they question you, and your motives. I have lost a couple of lays because of this. But then again you could play it like I never cared about the other girls but ur special. All around I think it is a bad thing. Because u might lose your chance with good girls. But the skanks will love u. LOl
Popeyes
Don Juan
Thats all they said?Ripper said:Don't worry about it dude. My girlfriends tell me it's a good thing.
What do you mean exactly? Elaborate a bit...Popeyes said:Thats all they said?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Popeyes
Don Juan
No I just mean like thats not all they said is it? You didn't just ask them about it and they said "it's good", or did they say a bit more, like what goes through their mind when they hear that.Ripper said:What do you mean exactly? Elaborate a bit...
Popeyes
Don Juan
Not sure exactly what you mean by control the situation.Ice Cold said:If you have to ask, it means you don't control the situation and can't take advantage of it.
That's a bad thing.
Oh ok. Just to clear up any confusion if there is any, by 'girlfriends' I mean friends who are girls. They basically said that if a guy has lots of girls writing flirty messages on his wall (facebook) then it's quite clear he's popular and sought after. They (the girls) reckon you can tell quite a lot about someone from who posts on their wall. Also, as long as you're quite popular (and this is where guy friends come in) then you can get away with a lot of sh1t. If you're seen as some PUA or seducer (even if that's what you are!), a sort of lone wolf, then your behaviour is not so easily excused.Popeyes said:No I just mean like thats not all they said is it? You didn't just ask them about it and they said "it's good", or did they say a bit more, like what goes through their mind when they hear that.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.