Popeyes
Don Juan
Yea is it a good or bad thing if people have been hearing that you're "pimping" alot of girls.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thats all they said?Ripper said:Don't worry about it dude. My girlfriends tell me it's a good thing.
What do you mean exactly? Elaborate a bit...Popeyes said:Thats all they said?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
No I just mean like thats not all they said is it? You didn't just ask them about it and they said "it's good", or did they say a bit more, like what goes through their mind when they hear that.Ripper said:What do you mean exactly? Elaborate a bit...
Not sure exactly what you mean by control the situation.Ice Cold said:If you have to ask, it means you don't control the situation and can't take advantage of it.
That's a bad thing.
Oh ok. Just to clear up any confusion if there is any, by 'girlfriends' I mean friends who are girls. They basically said that if a guy has lots of girls writing flirty messages on his wall (facebook) then it's quite clear he's popular and sought after. They (the girls) reckon you can tell quite a lot about someone from who posts on their wall. Also, as long as you're quite popular (and this is where guy friends come in) then you can get away with a lot of sh1t. If you're seen as some PUA or seducer (even if that's what you are!), a sort of lone wolf, then your behaviour is not so easily excused.Popeyes said:No I just mean like thats not all they said is it? You didn't just ask them about it and they said "it's good", or did they say a bit more, like what goes through their mind when they hear that.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.