lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
No on both. 48 years old, 32" waist, visible abs and pecs I can jiggle.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
beer?
- Thread starter forcerecon01
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
Minimum of 4 pints a day. I'm on #3 now since getting home from work an hour ago and I'm off tomorrow
so I stopped at the shop on my way home and got a dozen cans in.
so I stopped at the shop on my way home and got a dozen cans in.
Titties.
lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
Yeah, check out my huge mamms....
Attachments
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Again, men who drink lots of beer tend to have guts and tits. You are an exception, because you clearly work out. Most men who drink heavily don't.
Case in point, I drank probably 6+ pints of beer last night and night-capped with bourbon. I do not feel like going to the gym right now. I have the discipline to go anyways. Most men don't. Most men would sit around on the couch all day watching TV and eating food out of plastic wrappers.
Kotaix
Master Don Juan
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I'm personally incapable of being an alcoholic, i puke if I get drunk, so I don't like being drunk. and I usually
Getting drinks with a woman is a necessary step in vetting her. If she drinks like a fish around booze, next. If she's an angry or obnoxious drunk, next.
Getting drinks with a woman is a necessary step in vetting her. If she drinks like a fish around booze, next. If she's an angry or obnoxious drunk, next.
Travel memoir21
Master Don Juan
I'm not much of a drinker.
But when I was in the Military, when I went to the commissary to get some snacks, I'd get Mike's hard lemonade, sometimes a budlight chilada, sometimes a large can of Fosters to go with my junk food.
Other than that, I didn't go to parties and bar hopping with the guys or anything like I should have...probably would have met a party girl to chill with.....who the heck knows what could have happened if I were more extroverted and drank more.
But when I was in the Military, when I went to the commissary to get some snacks, I'd get Mike's hard lemonade, sometimes a budlight chilada, sometimes a large can of Fosters to go with my junk food.
Other than that, I didn't go to parties and bar hopping with the guys or anything like I should have...probably would have met a party girl to chill with.....who the heck knows what could have happened if I were more extroverted and drank more.
mjb3617
Don Juan
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I don't typically drink beer unless I'm with my friends. Dates I'll have a gin martini or Manhattan depending on my whims. One of those and it's enough to relax and feel good but not get sloppy. If the date isn't going well, I'll order up a second one.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.