lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
No on both. 48 years old, 32" waist, visible abs and pecs I can jiggle.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
beer?
- Thread starter forcerecon01
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
Minimum of 4 pints a day. I'm on #3 now since getting home from work an hour ago and I'm off tomorrow
so I stopped at the shop on my way home and got a dozen cans in.
so I stopped at the shop on my way home and got a dozen cans in.
Titties.
lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
Yeah, check out my huge mamms....
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Again, men who drink lots of beer tend to have guts and tits. You are an exception, because you clearly work out. Most men who drink heavily don't.
Case in point, I drank probably 6+ pints of beer last night and night-capped with bourbon. I do not feel like going to the gym right now. I have the discipline to go anyways. Most men don't. Most men would sit around on the couch all day watching TV and eating food out of plastic wrappers.
Kotaix
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I'm personally incapable of being an alcoholic, i puke if I get drunk, so I don't like being drunk. and I usually
Getting drinks with a woman is a necessary step in vetting her. If she drinks like a fish around booze, next. If she's an angry or obnoxious drunk, next.
Getting drinks with a woman is a necessary step in vetting her. If she drinks like a fish around booze, next. If she's an angry or obnoxious drunk, next.
Travel memoir21
Master Don Juan
I'm not much of a drinker.
But when I was in the Military, when I went to the commissary to get some snacks, I'd get Mike's hard lemonade, sometimes a budlight chilada, sometimes a large can of Fosters to go with my junk food.
Other than that, I didn't go to parties and bar hopping with the guys or anything like I should have...probably would have met a party girl to chill with.....who the heck knows what could have happened if I were more extroverted and drank more.
But when I was in the Military, when I went to the commissary to get some snacks, I'd get Mike's hard lemonade, sometimes a budlight chilada, sometimes a large can of Fosters to go with my junk food.
Other than that, I didn't go to parties and bar hopping with the guys or anything like I should have...probably would have met a party girl to chill with.....who the heck knows what could have happened if I were more extroverted and drank more.
mjb3617
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I don't typically drink beer unless I'm with my friends. Dates I'll have a gin martini or Manhattan depending on my whims. One of those and it's enough to relax and feel good but not get sloppy. If the date isn't going well, I'll order up a second one.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.