"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
penkitten
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Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
Ideally (assuming you want a GF) you should be dating multiple women until the one you want asks you to stop.
lol yeah ok only if ure hot and horny and up for some dirty sweaty sex 5 nites of the week! :cheer:penkitten said:
but anyways...ive been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now properly, which i suppose isnt very long and im starting to develop this oneitis for her now! i no i no what a pile of pull ****e!!but im doing my best to control it!! its ****ing hard though!! i might try and make her jealous and game her a little more by playin more HB's..that should escalate her feeligs for me!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
However, we have been seeing a lot of each other recently and she said we should slow down a little becasue we are both going to university in a few weeks for our first year!! does that mean i should next her..even though im pretty sure shes very attracted to me
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
oh man...makes me wish that i can somehow go back in time and just fcukin kick myself in the fcukin balls for doing what Penkitten posted...Shezz said:
YES, thats a one way ticket to 0% attraction.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
To to her about something you were talking about with someone else about her.
"Yeah i just said i was with my girlfriend." See how she takes it. If its good then its a nice indicator in the right direction. If she takes it bad. Just say in a C+F fashion. "Oh you thought i ment you?"
I did that in my last relationship and we just started calling each other bf and gf.
Sarge On!
TillTheEndOfTime
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Sorry Penkitten, you are nice and all, but being a girl means you have really no idea how to build attraction towards women. You have no experience in that regard.Rebound Material said:
*DISCLAIMER* --> The following ONLY applies to girls that you have known for a while and are "friends" with or are somewhat casually dating.
I can tell everyone here straight out from my own EXPERIENCE (not based on "theory") that coming out to a girl and saying that you like her or want her to be your girlfriend kills attraction. Almost completely. In some cases it can send her running for the hills depending on her personality. Save that crap for sappy love stories in the theatre...because that is the only place it really seems to ever work :crackup:
I can also say from witnessing other people's experience that the same observation above holds true. Even when it does work out with the girl, it does not seem to last long at all. Some girls have trouble saying "no" and feel obligated for some reason to try to reciprocate your feelings.....and they won't be able to do that for long if the attraction is missing.
The reverse situation where SHE asks you is the ideal scenario. Girls who ask you first are usually very attracted to you for whatever reason (again from my experience). Her asking you builds a solid foundation for a relationship if you want one as long as you play your cards right. However, you should always maintain an active and aggressive position in the relationship and not let her take the lead all the time.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
you could answer then.
or you could ask her now. im a chick and i have been asked "would you like to be my girlfriend" alot. its not like the rest of these guys on here never asked a girl that. come on, they did.
i like the one guy's reply to you about waiting until someone asks you something and say "well i was with my girlfriend or this is my girlfriend." sometimes its easier just to imply it and dont make a big deal about it.
ps. alot of times , certain guys on this site, pick on me because i am a chick. it doesnt neccessarily mean the advise is bad.
Penkitten, how did you and Gio end up being exclusive?
Did Gio say "would you like to be my girlfriend"?
Of course not. Duh. That's why your advice sucks sometimes, because you don't relate it to the real world, and what men have REALLY done that you REALLY got attracted to.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
we seemed to be exclusive from the start. of course neither of us actually said that in the very beginning. however, we did lots of talking before we met because the traveling distance was huge. we both worked and i have children so there really wasnt alot of time for us to be talking to other people at the same time. we just started taking turns visiting each other before we couldnt stand to be apart. we always knew we were a good match .Phyzzle said:
the guy who posted this thread isnt in the same position that we were in.
i do not see anything wrong with either person asking about how their relationship stands and i really do believe that usually if a gal is interested enough, she will define it for you
Well hmmm....
If there is no label that's open field for messing around to happen. If you've been seeing a girl for about a month or 2 and the relationship is defined in its actions, but no label... ur girl is fvcking around or you are...
You can't cheat if you're not bf and gf, when no label both parties can do whatever the fvck they wanna do with no consequences. Until she's your gf, she can date other guys... go party every wknd wit her girls ect... now most of you will say... "fine go head, donn care" but if it was a girl you truly had feelings for you wouldn't want her doing that crap... label that shvt bro... but if u got interest she'll do it for you...
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My current gf did it in a casual way... "sooo when do two people become bf and gf ?? In Japan its different, i want to understand american way" blahh blahhh, this threw hints she wanted it.... then i juss told her she was my gf one night on the train.... that was that, didn't kill any attraction
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Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I've seen that happen when a couple has yet to step into the role of "official couple." You've seen it. She regularly leaves stuff at your place, she asks if you have an extra toothbrush, she leaves with a handful of your boxer briefs because she looks good in boy shorts. Hey, this sh1t happens!!!penkitten said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
Go with what they said... It keeps the ball in your court...
I ****ed up yesterday... 6th date with this girl and I told her I don't plan on dating anyone else... Basically I thought I was going to get in her pants once she figured we were exclusive (Then she's all mine...) Then later that night I was like do you like your new boyfriend? I shouldn't have said ****... I DIDN'T GET ANY... Maybe she was just on her period... Lesson learned though...
Bronxtal112
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Best advice on here. It may be tempting to ask for her to stop dating other people. Don't do it.Shiftkey said:
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
This brings up memories from 4th grade.
I have never asked a girl if she wanted to be exclusive. It is something that gradually happens over time.