"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
Ideally (assuming you want a GF) you should be dating multiple women until the one you want asks you to stop.
lol yeah ok only if ure hot and horny and up for some dirty sweaty sex 5 nites of the week! :cheer:penkitten said:
but anyways...ive been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now properly, which i suppose isnt very long and im starting to develop this oneitis for her now! i no i no what a pile of pull ****e!!but im doing my best to control it!! its ****ing hard though!! i might try and make her jealous and game her a little more by playin more HB's..that should escalate her feeligs for me!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
However, we have been seeing a lot of each other recently and she said we should slow down a little becasue we are both going to university in a few weeks for our first year!! does that mean i should next her..even though im pretty sure shes very attracted to me
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
oh man...makes me wish that i can somehow go back in time and just fcukin kick myself in the fcukin balls for doing what Penkitten posted...Shezz said:
YES, thats a one way ticket to 0% attraction.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
To to her about something you were talking about with someone else about her.
"Yeah i just said i was with my girlfriend." See how she takes it. If its good then its a nice indicator in the right direction. If she takes it bad. Just say in a C+F fashion. "Oh you thought i ment you?"
I did that in my last relationship and we just started calling each other bf and gf.
Sarge On!
TillTheEndOfTime
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Sorry Penkitten, you are nice and all, but being a girl means you have really no idea how to build attraction towards women. You have no experience in that regard.Rebound Material said:
*DISCLAIMER* --> The following ONLY applies to girls that you have known for a while and are "friends" with or are somewhat casually dating.
I can tell everyone here straight out from my own EXPERIENCE (not based on "theory") that coming out to a girl and saying that you like her or want her to be your girlfriend kills attraction. Almost completely. In some cases it can send her running for the hills depending on her personality. Save that crap for sappy love stories in the theatre...because that is the only place it really seems to ever work :crackup:
I can also say from witnessing other people's experience that the same observation above holds true. Even when it does work out with the girl, it does not seem to last long at all. Some girls have trouble saying "no" and feel obligated for some reason to try to reciprocate your feelings.....and they won't be able to do that for long if the attraction is missing.
The reverse situation where SHE asks you is the ideal scenario. Girls who ask you first are usually very attracted to you for whatever reason (again from my experience). Her asking you builds a solid foundation for a relationship if you want one as long as you play your cards right. However, you should always maintain an active and aggressive position in the relationship and not let her take the lead all the time.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
you could answer then.
or you could ask her now. im a chick and i have been asked "would you like to be my girlfriend" alot. its not like the rest of these guys on here never asked a girl that. come on, they did.
i like the one guy's reply to you about waiting until someone asks you something and say "well i was with my girlfriend or this is my girlfriend." sometimes its easier just to imply it and dont make a big deal about it.
ps. alot of times , certain guys on this site, pick on me because i am a chick. it doesnt neccessarily mean the advise is bad.
Penkitten, how did you and Gio end up being exclusive?
Did Gio say "would you like to be my girlfriend"?
Of course not. Duh. That's why your advice sucks sometimes, because you don't relate it to the real world, and what men have REALLY done that you REALLY got attracted to.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
we seemed to be exclusive from the start. of course neither of us actually said that in the very beginning. however, we did lots of talking before we met because the traveling distance was huge. we both worked and i have children so there really wasnt alot of time for us to be talking to other people at the same time. we just started taking turns visiting each other before we couldnt stand to be apart. we always knew we were a good match .Phyzzle said:
the guy who posted this thread isnt in the same position that we were in.
i do not see anything wrong with either person asking about how their relationship stands and i really do believe that usually if a gal is interested enough, she will define it for you
Well hmmm....
If there is no label that's open field for messing around to happen. If you've been seeing a girl for about a month or 2 and the relationship is defined in its actions, but no label... ur girl is fvcking around or you are...
You can't cheat if you're not bf and gf, when no label both parties can do whatever the fvck they wanna do with no consequences. Until she's your gf, she can date other guys... go party every wknd wit her girls ect... now most of you will say... "fine go head, donn care" but if it was a girl you truly had feelings for you wouldn't want her doing that crap... label that shvt bro... but if u got interest she'll do it for you...
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My current gf did it in a casual way... "sooo when do two people become bf and gf ?? In Japan its different, i want to understand american way" blahh blahhh, this threw hints she wanted it.... then i juss told her she was my gf one night on the train.... that was that, didn't kill any attraction
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Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I've seen that happen when a couple has yet to step into the role of "official couple." You've seen it. She regularly leaves stuff at your place, she asks if you have an extra toothbrush, she leaves with a handful of your boxer briefs because she looks good in boy shorts. Hey, this sh1t happens!!!penkitten said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Badmannaz
Master Don Juan
Go with what they said... It keeps the ball in your court...
I ****ed up yesterday... 6th date with this girl and I told her I don't plan on dating anyone else... Basically I thought I was going to get in her pants once she figured we were exclusive (Then she's all mine...) Then later that night I was like do you like your new boyfriend? I shouldn't have said ****... I DIDN'T GET ANY... Maybe she was just on her period... Lesson learned though...
Bronxtal112
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Best advice on here. It may be tempting to ask for her to stop dating other people. Don't do it.Shiftkey said:
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
This brings up memories from 4th grade.
I have never asked a girl if she wanted to be exclusive. It is something that gradually happens over time.