"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

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ssj245 said:
How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.
Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.

Practice practice practice.

Look at her and I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect, then ask yourself "is this chick as hot as I first thought"

Once you start to look at chicks subjectively PROPERLY, its actually hard to find a REAL hottie.

Thats what I did and it worked.

Failing that just imagine her taking a dump, or b!tching about child support.
 

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lol

or how a slap to the face would sound like music.
Or how she is getting her face stuffed in the dirt.

Your right, can you give me any more practical strategies.
 

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I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

For me, the whole "imagind her taking a dump" thing works best. There is nothing more unattractive, unless you are into that sh!t.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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You have never seen a women give birth then......Thats disgusting and shes in the biggest hormonal trip of her life! MONSTER! SCARY STUFF!

Anyways off topic.....


Beauty is intimadating for several reason. Fear of rejection. Fear of failure. You will naturally place higher value on this girl. (pedestaling)

If you dont have the fear of failure. If your ont pedestaling her. Then the above wont matter if shes HB 6 or HB 10.

Thats my 2 cents.
 

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You can use the same thought process when you don't think you look good enough.

Some flaw you got, unless your 500 pounds or something.. isn't going to stop her from ****ing you just as it wouldn't stop you from ****ing her.
 

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ssj245 said:
How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.
I don't feel intimidated by beauty. I seek beauty. I seek it in clothes, art, movies, women...specially women.

But I still have CONTROL of myself. After all...I'm a man. I real one.

My point? I don't comprehend your thread.
 

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I cant even front about the reality of it. Beautiful girls intimidate the hell out of me. But only at first, once words are exchanged its all good...its just getting to that part thats hard.
 

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Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.

Practice practice practice.

Look at her and I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect, then ask yourself "is this chick as hot as I first thought"

Once you start to look at chicks subjectively PROPERLY, its actually hard to find a REAL hottie.

Thats what I did and it worked.

Failing that just imagine her taking a dump, or b!tching about child support.

dude I LOVE YOU. YOU SPEAK THE TRUTH BROTHER. IT IS ALLL SOCIAL CONDITINING, SOCIETY AND THOSE WHO LEAD IT WANT TO CREATE FEAR IN YOU SO YOU DONT ACCOMPLISH MUCH. CUZ IF YOU DO, U START TO OVERTHROWN THEM. SEE HOW MUCH OF BASTARDS THEY ARE.
GIRLS ARE NOTHING, THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRL IS JUST AN ANIMAL, A LOSER INSIDE, LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE. IT IS HER SUBJECTIVE EXPERIENCE THAT MATTERS NOT WHAT WE THINK OF HER. DO NOT FEAR HER, ATTACK HER WITH POWER AND HAVE THE MINDSET THAT YOU ARE THE PRIZE. THESE GIRLS ARE NOTHING SPECIAL MAN, GUYS ARE JUST TOO STUPID TO REALIZE TO APPROACH THESE GIRLS. SHE WILL THROW GAMES AT YOU, SO WHAT? THAT DIONT MEAN ****. IT IS AN AUTOMATIC RESPONSE FROM HER. SHE DOESNT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT. DONT LET IT AFFECT YOU. ITS A TEST TO SEE IF YOU FEAR HER. IF YOU DO, YOU ARE TOOOAASSTTTTT. SHE WILL DOMINATE YOU. YOU HAVE TO MAKE HER FEAR YOU SOMEHOW.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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( . )( . ) said:
Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.

Practice practice practice.

Look at her and I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect, then ask yourself "is this chick as hot as I first thought"

Once you start to look at chicks subjectively PROPERLY, its actually hard to find a REAL hottie.

Thats what I did and it worked.

Failing that just imagine her taking a dump, or b!tching about child support.
GREAT ADVICE!

I don't look at them as "insects"...but I use very similar approach as yours. And you are right. It works.
 

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Beautiful women are only intimidating until you see them for what they are.... human beings. You tear off that face, those t1ts, her skin, organs, and blood, and you'll find a human skeleton identical to the one inside yourself. She's only a typical human being who happens to be a physically attractive woman.

The typical human being has to relieve bladder, is clumsy as hell, scratches their ass, and is made from bones, organs, blood, water, and skin. Just like how cars with four stroke engines are made from the same stuff. They just have different shapes, colors, and features.
A rusty Ferrari is still a Ferrari.

All that really comes into play is your preference.
 

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What!

Desdinova said:
Beautiful women are only intimidating until you see them for what they are.... human beings. You tear off that face, those t1ts, her skin, organs, and blood, and you'll find a human skeleton identical to the one inside yourself.
No, No, No, we are made of sugar and spice and everything nice, that is what girls are made of!!

Just joking, very good perspective Des, great points!
 

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Desdinova said:
A rusty Ferrari is still a Ferrari.

All that really comes into play is your preference.

wow, thats so true. what a great way of summing it all up. :)
 

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Well packaging works. Once you've opened a few though you have a different perspective.

All of this nonsense still goes back to how *you* feel about yourself. Insecure people are more influenced by this stuff. Be happy with who you are and beautiful women won't have the same effect on you. This doesn't happen overnight though...
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.
Because you think she has other choices and that those other choices are better.

Solution:
You must KNOW that you are best choice for her ... or at least make her believe it.
 

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treat a beautiful women as you would some ugly women that was coming on to you. its hard but it works
 
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