Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.ssj245 said:How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.
Oh jeeezuz dont start with that sh!t, we'll get all the zombie guard poodles rushing in to scream "WOMAN HATER"!ssj245 said:or how a slap to the face would sound like music.
Or how she is getting her face stuffed in the dirt.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:( . )( . ) said:I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I don't feel intimidated by beauty. I seek beauty. I seek it in clothes, art, movies, women...specially women.ssj245 said:How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.
( . )( . ) said:Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.
Practice practice practice.
Look at her and I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect, then ask yourself "is this chick as hot as I first thought"
Once you start to look at chicks subjectively PROPERLY, its actually hard to find a REAL hottie.
Thats what I did and it worked.
Failing that just imagine her taking a dump, or b!tching about child support.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
GREAT ADVICE!( . )( . ) said:Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.
Practice practice practice.
Look at her and I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect, then ask yourself "is this chick as hot as I first thought"
Once you start to look at chicks subjectively PROPERLY, its actually hard to find a REAL hottie.
Thats what I did and it worked.
Failing that just imagine her taking a dump, or b!tching about child support.
No, No, No, we are made of sugar and spice and everything nice, that is what girls are made of!!Desdinova said:Beautiful women are only intimidating until you see them for what they are.... human beings. You tear off that face, those t1ts, her skin, organs, and blood, and you'll find a human skeleton identical to the one inside yourself.
Desdinova said:A rusty Ferrari is still a Ferrari.
All that really comes into play is your preference.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Because you think she has other choices and that those other choices are better.How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.