Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.ssj245 said:How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.
Oh jeeezuz dont start with that sh!t, we'll get all the zombie guard poodles rushing in to scream "WOMAN HATER"!ssj245 said:or how a slap to the face would sound like music.
Or how she is getting her face stuffed in the dirt.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:( . )( . ) said:I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I don't feel intimidated by beauty. I seek beauty. I seek it in clothes, art, movies, women...specially women.ssj245 said:How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.
( . )( . ) said:Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.
Practice practice practice.
Look at her and I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect, then ask yourself "is this chick as hot as I first thought"
Once you start to look at chicks subjectively PROPERLY, its actually hard to find a REAL hottie.
Thats what I did and it worked.
Failing that just imagine her taking a dump, or b!tching about child support.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
GREAT ADVICE!( . )( . ) said:Social Conditioning and a whole lot of brainwashing.
Practice practice practice.
Look at her and I mean REALLY look at her like shes an unidentified insect, then ask yourself "is this chick as hot as I first thought"
Once you start to look at chicks subjectively PROPERLY, its actually hard to find a REAL hottie.
Thats what I did and it worked.
Failing that just imagine her taking a dump, or b!tching about child support.
No, No, No, we are made of sugar and spice and everything nice, that is what girls are made of!!Desdinova said:Beautiful women are only intimidating until you see them for what they are.... human beings. You tear off that face, those t1ts, her skin, organs, and blood, and you'll find a human skeleton identical to the one inside yourself.
Desdinova said:A rusty Ferrari is still a Ferrari.
All that really comes into play is your preference.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Because you think she has other choices and that those other choices are better.How come beauty is intimidating and it always makes a guy turn into mush and lose his value of self and makes him forget everything about himself.