"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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- Thread starter inzone50
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
djSlvt
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DJ Bible is good. www.doubleyourdating.com is good..
Idea behind that is to transform yourself. That is achieved through practice.
You have a perfect opportunity in your life, your girl leaves you, and you study and become the man you always wanted to be.
djSlvt
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djSlvt
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What specifically do you want to do in the relationship? What does being a leader mean to you?inzone50 said:How do i become a better leader in a relationship?
Basically, have more say. Not become a whipped guy.Francisco d'Anconia said:What specifically do you want to do in the relationship? What does being a leader mean to you?
pimpaholicskip
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Yespimpaholicskip said:anyone else think that a thread that is 1 line long doesn't deserve responses?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Serialized3
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Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
That's easy. Have your own opinion and be confident enough to stand behind it.inzone50 said:Basically, have more say. Not become a whipped guy.
They make the decisions . ex. You decide where your going to eat. You decide where to take her on a date. You lead her and take control of the situation. Its pretty simple.