Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Good to see that you like Pook's post, Fanny.Originally posted by Fanny:
I feel like saluting, clapping, shouting, throwing confetti!!! males talking about being men! What could be better? Yes, that is what we woman want. And one other thing I add to your list, nobility. A few of your points touched it, but I thought it needed a little more attention. Standing up for what you belive (and beliving something worthwile) and being the kind of person who belives that anything worth doing, is worth doing well. I wish all men, and women, would strive for such personality traits.
From a Woman
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Hey Alpha..I like what youre saying alot.Just remember not to overanalyze cuz its a real killer toward infactuation.Also it isnt necessary to sweet talk her.Nice guys like to do that.Players like to flatter.I am not a player.Men would just take her..get her number and get some woman in their life...and Im not talking bout 1 night stands.Originally posted by AlphaMan:
This article was really enlightening. I am currently sweet talking my ould girlfriend's best friend and thanks to some of the help these articles have given I think I'm succeeding. From all I've read basically to win over a women you have to be good at analyzing things. Like this article said you cant be a jerk or a nice guy. I think you have to be both and know when to be which. Follow your women's moods and find out what she likes. Then see hows shes feeling and figure out whether to be quiet or be a talker. Be nice or play hard to get. But NO MATTER WHAT ALWAYS ALWAYS BE CONFIDENT. No matter what the situation is confidence is necessary. You just need to know how to show it. Stand and sit with good posture. Sometimes be quiet but stand with a cool calm confidence. Other times joke and tell storys. And never be over confident. I've seen that all women wont love a man who feels more for himself than they think he could feel for them. So basically be yourself with confidence and self restraint. Those are the 2 biggest things in winning a women and becoming a man. That and keep reading the Don Juan newsletters. Thanks to everyone whos wrote these helpful articles.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Originally posted by SupaManlova2G:
Are you impling that Men who belive in God are not real men. Cause I believe and God and there are a lot of great MEN who believe in God. I am just saying that God has someone for all of us..............But that doesn't mean we just sit around and wait. We need to take action!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
hehe, i did manage to talk to hot girls (in great outfits), something that i couldn't do for about 4 months ago.Originally posted by Lexomatic:
I'm off now to talk to sexy women in hotpants, something I couldnt do 12 months ago. It's not always easy, but the reward at the end is well worth it!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.