That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Good to see that you like Pook's post, Fanny.Originally posted by Fanny:
I feel like saluting, clapping, shouting, throwing confetti!!! males talking about being men! What could be better? Yes, that is what we woman want. And one other thing I add to your list, nobility. A few of your points touched it, but I thought it needed a little more attention. Standing up for what you belive (and beliving something worthwile) and being the kind of person who belives that anything worth doing, is worth doing well. I wish all men, and women, would strive for such personality traits.
From a Woman
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Hey Alpha..I like what youre saying alot.Just remember not to overanalyze cuz its a real killer toward infactuation.Also it isnt necessary to sweet talk her.Nice guys like to do that.Players like to flatter.I am not a player.Men would just take her..get her number and get some woman in their life...and Im not talking bout 1 night stands.Originally posted by AlphaMan:
This article was really enlightening. I am currently sweet talking my ould girlfriend's best friend and thanks to some of the help these articles have given I think I'm succeeding. From all I've read basically to win over a women you have to be good at analyzing things. Like this article said you cant be a jerk or a nice guy. I think you have to be both and know when to be which. Follow your women's moods and find out what she likes. Then see hows shes feeling and figure out whether to be quiet or be a talker. Be nice or play hard to get. But NO MATTER WHAT ALWAYS ALWAYS BE CONFIDENT. No matter what the situation is confidence is necessary. You just need to know how to show it. Stand and sit with good posture. Sometimes be quiet but stand with a cool calm confidence. Other times joke and tell storys. And never be over confident. I've seen that all women wont love a man who feels more for himself than they think he could feel for them. So basically be yourself with confidence and self restraint. Those are the 2 biggest things in winning a women and becoming a man. That and keep reading the Don Juan newsletters. Thanks to everyone whos wrote these helpful articles.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Originally posted by SupaManlova2G:
Are you impling that Men who belive in God are not real men. Cause I believe and God and there are a lot of great MEN who believe in God. I am just saying that God has someone for all of us..............But that doesn't mean we just sit around and wait. We need to take action!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
hehe, i did manage to talk to hot girls (in great outfits), something that i couldn't do for about 4 months ago.Originally posted by Lexomatic:
I'm off now to talk to sexy women in hotpants, something I couldnt do 12 months ago. It's not always easy, but the reward at the end is well worth it!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.