"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BDP Ex.. Oh Really?

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Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I like BPD girls... They are fun.
They are spontaneous, exciting, chaotic... Sex with a BPD girl is fvcking outstanding, always ridiculous hardcore porn type sex. And at least initially they worship you (I get rid of them before they devalue).
I do not get attached to them. And when I am done, they are already devaluing me and it makes it easier to just say goodbye.
 
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Asmodeus said:
I like BPD girls... They are fun.
They are spontaneous, exciting, chaotic... Sex with a BPD girl is fvcking outstanding, always ridiculous hardcore porn type sex. And at least initially they worship you (I get rid of them before they devalue).
I do not get attached to them. And when I am done, they are already devaluing me and it makes it easier to just say goodbye.
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Damn ain't that the truth!!!!
 
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The sex with mine was only good in between recycles,when we were together it was like pulling teeth to get,but when fwb in between its like she transformed into a pornstar,I mean I've had better...but not to shabby.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bible_Belt said:
I think I started it all in 2008 with posts about my bpd ex.
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I don't think so. I searched for BPD on here and saw threads dating back to 2003 about bpd. Although back then bpd was very unknown and the poster wanted to warn others about them.
 
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soulforge said:
Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
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I think you are right for most of them. But some are legit. The only way you can tell if they give some evidence with bpd behavior. I ignore any post that claim bpd without evidence.
 
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The good old bpd threads involved controllerx and jophil their threads were like gold for solid info.
 
Infern0

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soulforge said:
Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
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Well I think *as in my case a lot of us when we find out about our bpd girlfriends diagnosis we do a Internet search on it and sosuave comes up with a lot of info.

Some people use it as an excuse for sure, others of us have the actual diagnosis in which case...

But calling dudes "Beta faggots" etc ain't really going to do them no favors and I'm not sure why it's an issue for people on here. If you don't want to be involved in that discussion don't go in those threads it's pretty straightforward
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well I think *as in my case a lot of us when we find out about our bpd girlfriends diagnosis we do a Internet search on it and sosuave comes up with a lot of info.

Some people use it as an excuse for sure, others of us have the actual diagnosis in which case...

But calling dudes "Beta faggots" etc ain't really going to do them no favors and I'm not sure why it's an issue for people on here. If you don't want to be involved in that discussion don't go in those threads it's pretty straightforward
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This.

How many times do I have to explain this to these chest beating powder kegs?

Being surprised that many of the posters here are BPD survivors is like being surprised many people at an AA meeting are alcoholics. "Well look at that! 100% of the people at AA are alcoholics but alcoholics are only 9% of the population. Those 91% fakers..."

In 2000 this forum was about PUA lines. Today this forum is FOR GUYS who have run into a problem woman or guys onto self improvement. This isn't rocket science.
 
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i totally agree with OP....

but if you ever hear me mention my BPD ex.. just trust me dude...
PM me if you wanna hear some whacked out sh*t. lol.
 
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I wish someone warned me. BPD awareness should be like STD awareness.

I've been dumped by non-BDPs. Shrugged it off. Saw it coming. Boring relationship, someone had to pull the plug. Whatever.

I've dumped women. One who named her kitten after me. One who just got divorced and broke down in tears. I just manned up and talked to them about it until they smiled and became a friend.

BPD is in another universe. Someone you spent every night making love to for 6 months and saving up together for a house will randomly snap, decide you don't truly love them, that they have to cheat on you to make you feel how they feel, start harming themselves, etc. There are some psychiatrists who avoid BPDs because if the emotional toll of talking to one.

If every thread was "harpooned 5 models this week" where nobody ever got hurt or burned, would you even believe them?
 
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