"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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soulforge

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Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I like BPD girls... They are fun.
They are spontaneous, exciting, chaotic... Sex with a BPD girl is fvcking outstanding, always ridiculous hardcore porn type sex. And at least initially they worship you (I get rid of them before they devalue).
I do not get attached to them. And when I am done, they are already devaluing me and it makes it easier to just say goodbye.
 

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I like BPD girls... They are fun.
They are spontaneous, exciting, chaotic... Sex with a BPD girl is fvcking outstanding, always ridiculous hardcore porn type sex. And at least initially they worship you (I get rid of them before they devalue).
I do not get attached to them. And when I am done, they are already devaluing me and it makes it easier to just say goodbye.
Damn ain't that the truth!!!!
 

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The sex with mine was only good in between recycles,when we were together it was like pulling teeth to get,but when fwb in between its like she transformed into a pornstar,I mean I've had better...but not to shabby.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think I started it all in 2008 with posts about my bpd ex.
I don't think so. I searched for BPD on here and saw threads dating back to 2003 about bpd. Although back then bpd was very unknown and the poster wanted to warn others about them.
 

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Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
I think you are right for most of them. But some are legit. The only way you can tell if they give some evidence with bpd behavior. I ignore any post that claim bpd without evidence.
 

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The good old bpd threads involved controllerx and jophil their threads were like gold for solid info.
 

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Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
Well I think *as in my case a lot of us when we find out about our bpd girlfriends diagnosis we do a Internet search on it and sosuave comes up with a lot of info.

Some people use it as an excuse for sure, others of us have the actual diagnosis in which case...

But calling dudes "Beta faggots" etc ain't really going to do them no favors and I'm not sure why it's an issue for people on here. If you don't want to be involved in that discussion don't go in those threads it's pretty straightforward
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well I think *as in my case a lot of us when we find out about our bpd girlfriends diagnosis we do a Internet search on it and sosuave comes up with a lot of info.

Some people use it as an excuse for sure, others of us have the actual diagnosis in which case...

But calling dudes "Beta faggots" etc ain't really going to do them no favors and I'm not sure why it's an issue for people on here. If you don't want to be involved in that discussion don't go in those threads it's pretty straightforward
This.

How many times do I have to explain this to these chest beating powder kegs?

Being surprised that many of the posters here are BPD survivors is like being surprised many people at an AA meeting are alcoholics. "Well look at that! 100% of the people at AA are alcoholics but alcoholics are only 9% of the population. Those 91% fakers..."

In 2000 this forum was about PUA lines. Today this forum is FOR GUYS who have run into a problem woman or guys onto self improvement. This isn't rocket science.
 

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i totally agree with OP....

but if you ever hear me mention my BPD ex.. just trust me dude...
PM me if you wanna hear some whacked out sh*t. lol.
 

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I wish someone warned me. BPD awareness should be like STD awareness.

I've been dumped by non-BDPs. Shrugged it off. Saw it coming. Boring relationship, someone had to pull the plug. Whatever.

I've dumped women. One who named her kitten after me. One who just got divorced and broke down in tears. I just manned up and talked to them about it until they smiled and became a friend.

BPD is in another universe. Someone you spent every night making love to for 6 months and saving up together for a house will randomly snap, decide you don't truly love them, that they have to cheat on you to make you feel how they feel, start harming themselves, etc. There are some psychiatrists who avoid BPDs because if the emotional toll of talking to one.

If every thread was "harpooned 5 models this week" where nobody ever got hurt or burned, would you even believe them?
 
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