"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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BDP Ex.. Oh Really?

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Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I like BPD girls... They are fun.
They are spontaneous, exciting, chaotic... Sex with a BPD girl is fvcking outstanding, always ridiculous hardcore porn type sex. And at least initially they worship you (I get rid of them before they devalue).
I do not get attached to them. And when I am done, they are already devaluing me and it makes it easier to just say goodbye.
 
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Asmodeus said:
I like BPD girls... They are fun.
They are spontaneous, exciting, chaotic... Sex with a BPD girl is fvcking outstanding, always ridiculous hardcore porn type sex. And at least initially they worship you (I get rid of them before they devalue).
I do not get attached to them. And when I am done, they are already devaluing me and it makes it easier to just say goodbye.
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Damn ain't that the truth!!!!
 
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The sex with mine was only good in between recycles,when we were together it was like pulling teeth to get,but when fwb in between its like she transformed into a pornstar,I mean I've had better...but not to shabby.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bible_Belt said:
I think I started it all in 2008 with posts about my bpd ex.
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I don't think so. I searched for BPD on here and saw threads dating back to 2003 about bpd. Although back then bpd was very unknown and the poster wanted to warn others about them.
 
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soulforge said:
Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
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I think you are right for most of them. But some are legit. The only way you can tell if they give some evidence with bpd behavior. I ignore any post that claim bpd without evidence.
 
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The good old bpd threads involved controllerx and jophil their threads were like gold for solid info.
 
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soulforge said:
Why is every other chick on here BDP... is this just an excuse we guys make, because we turned into AFC faggots, and let a girl get the better of us? And let her walk all over us!!
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Well I think *as in my case a lot of us when we find out about our bpd girlfriends diagnosis we do a Internet search on it and sosuave comes up with a lot of info.

Some people use it as an excuse for sure, others of us have the actual diagnosis in which case...

But calling dudes "Beta faggots" etc ain't really going to do them no favors and I'm not sure why it's an issue for people on here. If you don't want to be involved in that discussion don't go in those threads it's pretty straightforward
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well I think *as in my case a lot of us when we find out about our bpd girlfriends diagnosis we do a Internet search on it and sosuave comes up with a lot of info.

Some people use it as an excuse for sure, others of us have the actual diagnosis in which case...

But calling dudes "Beta faggots" etc ain't really going to do them no favors and I'm not sure why it's an issue for people on here. If you don't want to be involved in that discussion don't go in those threads it's pretty straightforward
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This.

How many times do I have to explain this to these chest beating powder kegs?

Being surprised that many of the posters here are BPD survivors is like being surprised many people at an AA meeting are alcoholics. "Well look at that! 100% of the people at AA are alcoholics but alcoholics are only 9% of the population. Those 91% fakers..."

In 2000 this forum was about PUA lines. Today this forum is FOR GUYS who have run into a problem woman or guys onto self improvement. This isn't rocket science.
 
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i totally agree with OP....

but if you ever hear me mention my BPD ex.. just trust me dude...
PM me if you wanna hear some whacked out sh*t. lol.
 
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I wish someone warned me. BPD awareness should be like STD awareness.

I've been dumped by non-BDPs. Shrugged it off. Saw it coming. Boring relationship, someone had to pull the plug. Whatever.

I've dumped women. One who named her kitten after me. One who just got divorced and broke down in tears. I just manned up and talked to them about it until they smiled and became a friend.

BPD is in another universe. Someone you spent every night making love to for 6 months and saving up together for a house will randomly snap, decide you don't truly love them, that they have to cheat on you to make you feel how they feel, start harming themselves, etc. There are some psychiatrists who avoid BPDs because if the emotional toll of talking to one.

If every thread was "harpooned 5 models this week" where nobody ever got hurt or burned, would you even believe them?
 
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