"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
BDP Ex.. Oh Really?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They are spontaneous, exciting, chaotic... Sex with a BPD girl is fvcking outstanding, always ridiculous hardcore porn type sex. And at least initially they worship you (I get rid of them before they devalue).
I do not get attached to them. And when I am done, they are already devaluing me and it makes it easier to just say goodbye.
Sho-No-Luv
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Damn ain't that the truth!!!!
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Bible_Belt
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I don't think so. I searched for BPD on here and saw threads dating back to 2003 about bpd. Although back then bpd was very unknown and the poster wanted to warn others about them.
Speculator E
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I think you are right for most of them. But some are legit. The only way you can tell if they give some evidence with bpd behavior. I ignore any post that claim bpd without evidence.
Bible_Belt
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....borderline-personality-disorder-chicks.55034/
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Well I think *as in my case a lot of us when we find out about our bpd girlfriends diagnosis we do a Internet search on it and sosuave comes up with a lot of info.
Some people use it as an excuse for sure, others of us have the actual diagnosis in which case...
But calling dudes "Beta faggots" etc ain't really going to do them no favors and I'm not sure why it's an issue for people on here. If you don't want to be involved in that discussion don't go in those threads it's pretty straightforward
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
BlueAlpha1
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This.
How many times do I have to explain this to these chest beating powder kegs?
Being surprised that many of the posters here are BPD survivors is like being surprised many people at an AA meeting are alcoholics. "Well look at that! 100% of the people at AA are alcoholics but alcoholics are only 9% of the population. Those 91% fakers..."
In 2000 this forum was about PUA lines. Today this forum is FOR GUYS who have run into a problem woman or guys onto self improvement. This isn't rocket science.
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I've been dumped by non-BDPs. Shrugged it off. Saw it coming. Boring relationship, someone had to pull the plug. Whatever.
I've dumped women. One who named her kitten after me. One who just got divorced and broke down in tears. I just manned up and talked to them about it until they smiled and became a friend.
BPD is in another universe. Someone you spent every night making love to for 6 months and saving up together for a house will randomly snap, decide you don't truly love them, that they have to cheat on you to make you feel how they feel, start harming themselves, etc. There are some psychiatrists who avoid BPDs because if the emotional toll of talking to one.
If every thread was "harpooned 5 models this week" where nobody ever got hurt or burned, would you even believe them?