"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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BB Shrug Question

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Some people have told me to use the plain overhand grip when doing BB shrugs. Obviously you wont be able to lift as heavy as weight, as opposed to the reverse grip. Other people have recommended the reverse grip, but it feels weird with the reverse grip, like its a different angle for each trap. Should i alternate reverse grips to compesate? or does it matter?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How about drop this worthless exercise and put a few more lbs on your deadlift..
 

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pull yourself up straight with your shoulders up & back and your chest out at the top of each deadlift-- all the shrug your traps will ever need.
 

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yes! one less excersise to do in the gym. now i can watch maury with the extra time
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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agreed with all above. when deadlifts started slowing, i got a trap boost from upright rows and even commando pullups (google it)
 

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6-heads lewis said:
agreed with all above. when deadlifts started slowing, i got a trap boost from upright rows and even commando pullups (google it)
upright rows work the traps tremendously well too,but you have to be kinda carefull with your rotator cuffs.
 

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wtf is up with the deal with rotator cuffs? i always hear them in injuries and stuff.whats wrong wit them?
 

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You would be suprised how much weight your forearms and wrist can hold onto. Grip it the way that feels comfortable and you can still feel it in your traps and your good to go! There is no set way to lift,do what feels comfortable and works your muscles, that's all that matters.
 

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Whatever, do shrugs.. make sure you go heavy and do not rotate shoulders - just go up and down as in "shrug, i dont know"

I am doing 90's dumbells (Work better IMO) and my grip is ridiculous now.. before i could barely hold 135 on a barbell.


people will tell you to never do shrugs, forearms, i say fvck that, do those as well
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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that looks scary. pendley rows wont give you that kind of crap right, even if it is pulling. and standing military press, too? i assume its different from sitting m. press which i heard was more dangerous.

what other weird exercises should i look out for? i have done upright rows in the past when i was a newbie isolation lifter, but i cut that crap out.

and how do we go about preventing this kind of injury?
 

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Yeah my left shoulder is screwed because I've been doing my bench wrong for almost 3 months. I was flaring my elbows out like crazy, almost completely parallel with the bar.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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oh wow. i see a lot of goons do that, perhaps because they take too wide a grip? i should warn them before they become limbless
 

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ill get back to you on that bench form question, as soon as i get the reply from the pro.

one thing - ive seen pros do it like you are saying with flared arms, and that is how im doing it now.. i think that IS the proper form..but like i said, ill get back to ya
 

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cool. i find bench to be very difficult formwise compared to squats and deadlifts, as it is easy to notice who are doing them right.then we can watch and learn from them.
bench however has many variations so some buff nogood could be doing incorrect form claiming to a skinny kid that it works out the chest or the triceps more or some nonsense. then you dont know who to believe.
i still think 45 degree between arm/side of the back is a good idea, with a grip slightly wider than shoulder width before unracking. and do we touch the sternum or merely go 90 degree elbows?
 

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If you're pinching together your shoulder blades, like you should be, and squeezing your lats, like you should be, your elbows shouldn't be flared. If you flare, you're putting your shoulders at risk.
 

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Benching to isolate the pecs... flare. However, can cause shoulder stress.
Benching powerlifter style for a full body work and maximum, you're elbows are tucked in.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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