Thiis chick i used to be tight with, and i suspect likes me, just asked me to go to the school basketball game with her. I'm not sure if its a date or ont. Ive also only been to one basketball game in my whole life. You guys got any pointers for me?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
keep you **** inside your pants, unless she wants to dribble your balls. Have fun. Don't try to put move on or anything. See how things develop. Ask who her favorite player is or whatever and talk like you know what she's talking about.
Are her friends going? If so, who does she pay more attention to?
Bring damn gum, and just be a normal DJ. You'll be fine. But you should try to establish at first whether she likes you, and this is the perfect time. If she doesn't like you, this isn't a date, and well... just ditch her.
Bring damn gum, and just be a normal DJ. You'll be fine. But you should try to establish at first whether she likes you, and this is the perfect time. If she doesn't like you, this isn't a date, and well... just ditch her.
ValleyDJing
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Next time that sort of thing happens, ask her "are you asking me out?" and give a sly smile. The smile is important.
Her response to your question without a smile (even if she was asking you out). "No, no, my friends just bailed on me and I don't wanna go alone. You being my best guy friend makes you the obvious choice."
Her response with a smile. Well, lets just say it would be a lot more favorable.
WARNING: She may NOT be asking you out. Be prepared for that.
Just for future reference. Right now, just go and have a good time. Then you can ask her out again later.
Her response to your question without a smile (even if she was asking you out). "No, no, my friends just bailed on me and I don't wanna go alone. You being my best guy friend makes you the obvious choice."
Her response with a smile. Well, lets just say it would be a lot more favorable.
WARNING: She may NOT be asking you out. Be prepared for that.
Just for future reference. Right now, just go and have a good time. Then you can ask her out again later.
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what teams are playing?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Precursor
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yo im pretty sure he said "school basketball game" so i don't think the teams matter to us
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..and since it's a school basketball game i don't know if "who's your favorite player" is such a great line.