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Time to come to an agreement with your brother about getting a certain time to yourself at your place, so you can bring them back home.
 

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Time to come to an agreement with your brother about getting a certain time to yourself at your place, so you can bring them back home.
Just not something I can do. He has nowhere to go. No car. Just a dead eat yet he gets hotter girls than me. And he gets to **** them at their places so if he can do it I, with Accra to pick up magic should be able to do it
 

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Yeah. Any time I try seductive I get ghosted.
You're not doing it right. Do you have any examples of a seductive text where you got ghosted? Maybe SS members can try to help improve your seduction text game.
 

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You're not doing it right. Do you have any examples of a seductive text where you got ghosted? Maybe SS members can try to help improve your seduction text game.
Not currently But usually when I try and be seductive I do things like say “you have potiential” or something like that. Do you have any suggestions I can try? I’m open to trying new things at this point as long as it’s not something I tried and failed with in the past
 

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Not currently But usually when I try and be seductive I do things like say “you have potiential” or something like that. Do you have any suggestions I can try? I’m open to trying new things at this point as long as it’s not something I tried and failed with in the past
There's no set formula but analyzing your past interactions is probably more effective. The next time you try that, save the screenshots so we can analyze what's going on or how you can improve.

I can say "you have potential" line without building enough rapport or having enough witty banter to build up to it will give it negative connotations to certain girls though.
 

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There's no set formula but analyzing your past interactions is probably more effective. The next time you try that, save the screenshots so we can analyze what's going on or how you can improve.

I can say "you have potential" line without building enough rapport or having enough witty banter to build up to it will give it negative connotations to certain girls though.
Ok I will. But I never was able to be witty. I used to back when I was an insecure guy but since getting real with myself, it just isn’t something I do

not saying you or anyone being witty is insecure whatnim
Trying to say is that I’m not able to do it anymore. I’m just more at home being boring I guess
 

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Not currently But usually when I try and be seductive I do things like say “you have potiential” or something like that. Do you have any suggestions I can try? I’m open to trying new things at this point as long as it’s not something I tried and failed with in the past
Idk if that is a good tip, but try to figure out what is the fantasy of the woman ure talking. Some love to live in that fantasy world, once ure in... Ure also in her pssy.

Its not easy to learn, Im not a master on it... But I saw that happening to me in some cases.

Status seems to play a big role too. When I was a dj and music producer... It rained women to me as easy as sleeping. Now as I dont do that anymore, its a bit difficult... But also I find more genuine connection than before.

It also depends on what you want. Do you want only sex, do you want connection, do you want casual dates... You must define it, since that can change the direction of your game.

Hope that can help a bit man.
 

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Idk if that is a good tip, but try to figure out what is the fantasy of the woman ure talking. Some love to live in that fantasy world, once ure in... Ure also in her pssy.

Its not easy to learn, Im not a master on it... But I saw that happening to me in some cases.

Status seems to play a big role too. When I was a dj and music producer... It rained women to me as easy as sleeping. Now as I dont do that anymore, its a bit difficult... But also I find more genuine connection than before.

It also depends on what you want. Do you want only sex, do you want connection, do you want casual dates... You must define it, since that can change the direction of your game.

Hope that can help a bit man.
This is much appreciated, thank you. I know exactly what I want: 3-4 regular girls that I can go through life with. While having ons at my leisure but I do want a solid group of girls to be in open relationships with.

the fantasy thing is interesting, I’ve noticed this too. It’s hard to meet the fantasy when I also want to just have sex my way. I don’t like catering to women, but I have noticed girls who I coincidentally align with their fantasy, are really into me.

if it’s as simple as finding out her fantasy and catering to it, how can I do that?
 

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Also, I'm trying to find some connection with women I date... But in my past experiences and analysis, I didn't found that much of that. I'm trying to figure out now if that is really possible... Cause my main opinion is that monogamy and that idea of love might not exist. And with my Psychoanalysis studies, there might be a possibility of that if a woman or man becomes able to self-analyse herself/himself or do that journey of understanding your inner side, its a good path of building some kind of monogamic relationship.

But that's all assumptions. I'm gonna dive deep on that and try to see if there is any logic or a reasonable theory. But based on my sexual issues and development with my self-analysis and therapy... It came on my mind that possibility.

About casual dating, I would like to add that in our society... There is a great objectification. The principles of most people are based on material stuffs like money, what it can buy and the fantasy of status/power and the feeling of being important.

I see women here in Brazil valuing drug dealers and guys who like brazilian funk and show their power (money, danger, against law, etc.). Those are the ***** ones who definitely look for those status and fck those guys.

The other side is also true. There are women who look for guys who have power, but not something against the law. Their fantasy is about the guy who built a company, are confident and people admire him socially. Those women also will love to have sex with those guys, if they showed those aspects... But its still the same as the first idea.

I've used to play on some parties that I saw a lot of drug dealers and those "dangerous guys"... They hold the hottest and horniest women with them.

Myself as a DJ (Music DJ), I had access to a lot of horny and sexy women. Not that much as those "Drug dealers guys"... But I saw that world and what happened behind the scenes. Same you can achieve as being a militar or a guy who show something similar. But a woman who date a drug dealer is not the woman who dates a militar or a musician. I could call it Women Tiers... Each Tier we can define if their main desire/fantasy relates to sex or in another principle.

Status/Power Tier I could say that its mainly related to sex and resources. Women use sex as a tool to obtain part of that Status/Power a guy holds on.

I'm not saying to do that, but if you understand the mechanics of the Tier you wanna get in and what kind of fantasy is the ruling that Tier... You will have access to most women on that. That's basically learning to play by the game rules.

I used to like that a bit when I was younger, now I don't. That's why I'm trying to find the Tier that values other principles to see if its possible to build something more genuine.
 

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This is much appreciated, thank you. I know exactly what I want: 3-4 regular girls that I can go through life with. While having ons at my leisure but I do want a solid group of girls to be in open relationships with.

the fantasy thing is interesting, I’ve noticed this too. It’s hard to meet the fantasy when I also want to just have sex my way. I don’t like catering to women, but I have noticed girls who I coincidentally align with their fantasy, are really into me.

if it’s as simple as finding out her fantasy and catering to it, how can I do that?
A lot of observation... Ask what kind of patterns exist on that type of woman you want. There is a mechanic behind it, and mastering it can give you better tools to achieve that.

Also there is no way of observing those patterns if you don't try and make mistakes. And those mistakes hold great teachings to improve your gameplay.

You can use it to do bad things or not... Use carefully.

We as humans plays by patterns, and patterns most of times lead to the same path.
 

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A lot of observation... Ask what kind of patterns exist on that type of woman you want. There is a mechanic behind it, and mastering it can give you better tools to achieve that.

Also there is no way of observing those patterns if you don't try and make mistakes. And those mistakes hold great teachings to improve your gameplay.

You can use it to do bad things or not... Use carefully.

We as humans plays by patterns, and patterns most of times lead to the same path.
Yeah I know the type of girl I want but I don’t think I could ever be the type of guy they want so what then? Is game only trying to be the kind of guy a type of girl you like is into? I thought game was hitting primal triggers that supersede such things
 

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Yeah I know the type of girl I want but I don’t think I could ever be the type of guy they want so what then? Is game only trying to be the kind of guy a type of girl you like is into? I thought game was hitting primal triggers that supersede such things
I can tell only by what I see.

And in some cases yes, for example... Some women basically looks for a guy who is attractive with muscle and not fat. Their pattern of taste is based on feeling attracted by a strong and fit guy. So if someone is fat, he will never achieve that requirement.

It happened to me. I was very fat, didn't fck any girl (until my 16yrs). Lost weight, became a dj (18 to 25)... Fcked a lot of women. Became depressed and gained weight... Most of those girls I used to have sex left. I still have sex and dates, but not with that kind of women and not in the same amount of before.

Started to lose weight and nowadays I'm bit better than in that depressed state... Some women feel more attracted.

So in some cases is not only triggering those primal triggers.
 

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I can tell only by what I see.

And in some cases yes, for example... Some women basically looks for a guy who is attractive with muscle and not fat. Their pattern of taste is based on feeling attracted by a strong and fit guy. So if someone is fat, he will never achieve that requirement.

It happened to me. I was very fat, didn't fck any girl (until my 16yrs). Lost weight, became a dj (18 to 25)... Fcked a lot of women. Became depressed and gained weight... Most of those girls I used to have sex left. I still have sex and dates, but not with that kind of women and not in the same amount of before.

Started to lose weight and nowadays I'm bit better than in that depressed state... Some women feel more attracted.

So in some cases is not only triggering those primal triggers.
Yes but you were also a DJ. I’ve seen sooo many fat guys with hot Instagram level girls where I live. So I think there’s more going on. I just wish I knew what it was because I’m already fit and even when I was 180lbs with 10% body fat I couldn’t get any action. I think it’s all game tbh but I just think I’m missing some keys that could be helping me
 

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Yes but you were also a DJ. I’ve seen sooo many fat guys with hot Instagram level girls where I live. So I think there’s more going on. I just wish I knew what it was because I’m already fit and even when I was 180lbs with 10% body fat I couldn’t get any action. I think it’s all game tbh but I just think I’m missing some keys that could be helping me
That makes sense man!

Most things is all about game... And recognizing there is missing keys on that is a good start. Just learn to make the right questions and observe the patterns. And I think you can find it.

If you wanna describe what kind of women do you want, maybe I could help with some thoughts.
 

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That makes sense man!

Most things is all about game... And recognizing there is missing keys on that is a good start. Just learn to make the right questions and observe the patterns. And I think you can find it.

If you wanna describe what kind of women do you want, maybe I could help with some thoughts.
Yes thank you so much my friend! You’ll find I am very open to learning and trying new styles but if I have tried something already with negative results, I’ll tell you simply it hasn’t worked. I’m not open to doing what I’ve already proved doesn’t work.

As for the kinds of girls I like, I like the plastic, fake, Instagram girls. There is a porn star I used to watch but I think she’s retired now. Anyhow I modeled my hair and beard style after her boyfriend because he was the only man she would **** and she’s exactly my type. Her bf is also thin like me so I figured the look should work for me but so far no luck.

I also like masochistic girls but I don’t like to have to tell girls what to do or be an active dom. One of the things that was amazing about my ex gf was she knew exactly how to please me in bed. I swear she never got off but I was trying my hardest not to *** every time so I could enjoy it longer. So I like women that will please me. She was a 7 when I met her but she did put on weight and degraded to a 6 before we split up. I got a pic here

I can also post pics of women I find to be 10’s if you want
 

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Yes thank you so much my friend! You’ll find I am very open to learning and trying new styles but if I have tried something already with negative results, I’ll tell you simply it hasn’t worked. I’m not open to doing what I’ve already proved doesn’t work.

As for the kinds of girls I like, I like the plastic, fake, Instagram girls. There is a porn star I used to watch but I think she’s retired now. Anyhow I modeled my hair and beard style after her boyfriend because he was the only man she would **** and she’s exactly my type. Her bf is also thin like me so I figured the look should work for me but so far no luck.

I also like masochistic girls but I don’t like to have to tell girls what to do or be an active dom. One of the things that was amazing about my ex gf was she knew exactly how to please me in bed. I swear she never got off but I was trying my hardest not to *** every time so I could enjoy it longer. So I like women that will please me. She was a 7 when I met her but she did put on weight and degraded to a 6 before we split up. I got a pic here

I can also post pics of women I find to be 10’s if you want
You're welcome bro!

And yep, there is no reason to keep trying something that doesn't work. Go for what you believe makes sense to you and keep always open to learning with those experiences.

What do you think those types of woman want in a man? What kind of talk could turn on those masochistic desires on her that could make her sleep with you? Is there any pattern you already know to easily spot that kind of women? What mistakes you think or proved to don't work with those kind of women?

What a masochistic girl could possibly want or desire, or even fantasize in a man?

Just some questions that could help. You can also use your ex to try to identify what made her become attracted to you.

Its a bit difficult, it takes some time... but I think that taking a time to analyze those points and others that will come, might help you a lot.
 

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You're welcome bro!

And yep, there is no reason to keep trying something that doesn't work. Go for what you believe makes sense to you and keep always open to learning with those experiences.

What do you think those types of woman want in a man? What kind of talk could turn on those masochistic desires on her that could make her sleep with you? Is there any pattern you already know to easily spot that kind of women? What mistakes you think or proved to don't work with those kind of women?

What a masochistic girl could possibly want or desire, or even fantasize in a man?

Just some questions that could help. You can also use your ex to try to identify what made her become attracted to you.

Its a bit difficult, it takes some time... but I think that taking a time to analyze those points and others that will come, might help you a lot.
My ex told me she was attracted to me because I was there for her in a tough time. I also moved really fast with her on the dating app and got her to invite me over.

I remember how it went down and it definitely wasn’t seductive or pua.
As for the hot girls. No idea man. Seems no matter what I say these girls don’t respond well.
I spotted a masochistic girl and opened her online by saying things like “be my slut” or “be my plaything” and it rarely works too.

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Masochistic girls want a guy who will constantly put them in their place and that is not something I want because I’m too lazy.
 
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