"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Awkwardness if rejected?

Fionn

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So I'm going to ask this girl from school out but.....

How do you deal with the awkwardness if your rejected? I've known her a long time but recently I feel I should just fvckin go for it ye know?
Any advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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novaknight

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Just do it. What do you have to lose? **** awkwardness, go for the throat.

Awkwardness is just another feeling. If it doesn't work, bah, who cares?
Theres like 3 billion other women on this planet.
 

NorwegianDJ

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First ask yourself whether you want her in your life as a friend, and if she is a good friend at the moment. Dont think that its guaranteed to be awkward if she says no. It may be that it strengthens your friendship, or opens up an opportunity in the future.

Personally I think you should ask her.
 

Fionn

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Thanks for the encouragement guys...

I suppose I really have nothing to lose.
 

novaknight

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NorwegianDJ said:
First ask yourself whether you want her in your life as a friend, and if she is a good friend at the moment. Dont think that its guaranteed to be awkward if she says no. It may be that it strengthens your friendship, or opens up an opportunity in the future.

Personally I think you should ask her.
id agree with DJ. good luck
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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StateOfMind

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Dude who gives a fvck! Go do it. There's nothing to be excited/scared about.
Just have the Faith, Desire, and action(having balls) to ask her out. Guarantee win or lose, you will be happy you did it. Trust me.
 
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