Has anyone here ever talked to a girl and hit it off nicely and then when the time was right to ask her to be your gf you didn't? Then, she stopped being nice and stopped being her regular self? Are these kind of situations lost causes? Has anyone ever dug themselves out of one of these?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Asking her to be your girlfriend...
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Daddy The Pimp
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Dont ask her to be your girlfriend . Just invite her to go out with you sometimes or go for the kiss if its the moment .
And no , they are not lost cases .But you gotta do your move faster , because she may be thinking now that you are uninterested.
And no , they are not lost cases .But you gotta do your move faster , because she may be thinking now that you are uninterested.
danthemann
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Best piece of advice i can give ya is what happened to me about 3 hours ago.
Ive been going out with this girl for almost 2 months now? and i never pop the girlfriend/boyfriend question because the girl always hints to me when she wants to take it to that level. For example, tonight. She asked me " so what do you consider us, babe?" i went on to go into detail about stuff i expected in the relationship and so forth.
Ive been going out with this girl for almost 2 months now? and i never pop the girlfriend/boyfriend question because the girl always hints to me when she wants to take it to that level. For example, tonight. She asked me " so what do you consider us, babe?" i went on to go into detail about stuff i expected in the relationship and so forth.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Lil Magic
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Well...I found out the hard way...don't EVER ask a girl to be your girlfriend. Let it be the other way around. I don't know if there is ever a way to recover from this. At least, i haven't found a way. I think you should just cut her off for a while. Then come back when things are back to normal.