Has anyone here ever talked to a girl and hit it off nicely and then when the time was right to ask her to be your gf you didn't? Then, she stopped being nice and stopped being her regular self? Are these kind of situations lost causes? Has anyone ever dug themselves out of one of these?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Asking her to be your girlfriend...
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Daddy The Pimp
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Dont ask her to be your girlfriend . Just invite her to go out with you sometimes or go for the kiss if its the moment .
And no , they are not lost cases .But you gotta do your move faster , because she may be thinking now that you are uninterested.
And no , they are not lost cases .But you gotta do your move faster , because she may be thinking now that you are uninterested.
danthemann
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Best piece of advice i can give ya is what happened to me about 3 hours ago.
Ive been going out with this girl for almost 2 months now? and i never pop the girlfriend/boyfriend question because the girl always hints to me when she wants to take it to that level. For example, tonight. She asked me " so what do you consider us, babe?" i went on to go into detail about stuff i expected in the relationship and so forth.
Ive been going out with this girl for almost 2 months now? and i never pop the girlfriend/boyfriend question because the girl always hints to me when she wants to take it to that level. For example, tonight. She asked me " so what do you consider us, babe?" i went on to go into detail about stuff i expected in the relationship and so forth.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Lil Magic
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Well...I found out the hard way...don't EVER ask a girl to be your girlfriend. Let it be the other way around. I don't know if there is ever a way to recover from this. At least, i haven't found a way. I think you should just cut her off for a while. Then come back when things are back to normal.