Has anyone here ever talked to a girl and hit it off nicely and then when the time was right to ask her to be your gf you didn't? Then, she stopped being nice and stopped being her regular self? Are these kind of situations lost causes? Has anyone ever dug themselves out of one of these?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Asking her to be your girlfriend...
- Thread starter Conquer
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Daddy The Pimp
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Dont ask her to be your girlfriend . Just invite her to go out with you sometimes or go for the kiss if its the moment .
And no , they are not lost cases .But you gotta do your move faster , because she may be thinking now that you are uninterested.
And no , they are not lost cases .But you gotta do your move faster , because she may be thinking now that you are uninterested.
danthemann
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Best piece of advice i can give ya is what happened to me about 3 hours ago.
Ive been going out with this girl for almost 2 months now? and i never pop the girlfriend/boyfriend question because the girl always hints to me when she wants to take it to that level. For example, tonight. She asked me " so what do you consider us, babe?" i went on to go into detail about stuff i expected in the relationship and so forth.
Ive been going out with this girl for almost 2 months now? and i never pop the girlfriend/boyfriend question because the girl always hints to me when she wants to take it to that level. For example, tonight. She asked me " so what do you consider us, babe?" i went on to go into detail about stuff i expected in the relationship and so forth.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Lil Magic
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Well...I found out the hard way...don't EVER ask a girl to be your girlfriend. Let it be the other way around. I don't know if there is ever a way to recover from this. At least, i haven't found a way. I think you should just cut her off for a while. Then come back when things are back to normal.