Has anyone here ever talked to a girl and hit it off nicely and then when the time was right to ask her to be your gf you didn't? Then, she stopped being nice and stopped being her regular self? Are these kind of situations lost causes? Has anyone ever dug themselves out of one of these?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Asking her to be your girlfriend...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Daddy The Pimp
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Dont ask her to be your girlfriend . Just invite her to go out with you sometimes or go for the kiss if its the moment .
And no , they are not lost cases .But you gotta do your move faster , because she may be thinking now that you are uninterested.
And no , they are not lost cases .But you gotta do your move faster , because she may be thinking now that you are uninterested.
danthemann
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Best piece of advice i can give ya is what happened to me about 3 hours ago.
Ive been going out with this girl for almost 2 months now? and i never pop the girlfriend/boyfriend question because the girl always hints to me when she wants to take it to that level. For example, tonight. She asked me " so what do you consider us, babe?" i went on to go into detail about stuff i expected in the relationship and so forth.
Ive been going out with this girl for almost 2 months now? and i never pop the girlfriend/boyfriend question because the girl always hints to me when she wants to take it to that level. For example, tonight. She asked me " so what do you consider us, babe?" i went on to go into detail about stuff i expected in the relationship and so forth.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Lil Magic
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Well...I found out the hard way...don't EVER ask a girl to be your girlfriend. Let it be the other way around. I don't know if there is ever a way to recover from this. At least, i haven't found a way. I think you should just cut her off for a while. Then come back when things are back to normal.