Ive been dating a girl for a while, she had a crush on me until she met her ex boyfriend a year ago they recently broke up about 2 months ago. Anyways we have good chemistry, and she lives no more than a few blocks away. Im taking her to the beach on saturday and another date on sunday. But im getting tired of always taking her on dates and wasiting my time when i could just next her and move on. So is there a time when you can just ask a girl if shes interested without making it awkward.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Asking a girl if shes interested?
- Thread starter mtlwlu
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you have to ask, you're mising the entire point of this site. Your happiness depends on her saying "yes" or "no". You should be doing everything you want to make yourself happy, and she should come along for the ride.mtlwlu said:
nismo-4
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You better take the initiative!
Bible_Belt
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kiss her
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
From my personal experience and everything I've read, never ask a girl directly if she's "interested." You have to play the game like everybody else and figure it out for yourself by reading her or going for broke and hoping she reciprocates.
true romance
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if yo went out with her and you did not flirt then she put in you in friend zone
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
always flirting, funny.
Now apply sunscreen on her body, hold hand..kino ..etc
Assume attraction and plow...
watch her action for IOI
The Sperminator
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NEVER ASK HER THAT EVER!!! Do what everyone else said. Flirt, hold hands, make a move.
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Don't ask her that question.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
You need to make a move on her like the others have said. That will give you the answer without having to ask her directly.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.